My bestfriend that i want to ask to be my bridesmaid isn't supportive for my wedding

Sounds like she isn't really that great of a friend. You call her a best friend but she's not really that nice to you. Maybe figure out the friendship thing first.

I agree with the above user. I’m sorry, but it doesn’t sound like she is being much of a friend. Maybe you need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. I wouldn’t invite negativity around me, especially at my own wedding. If she really is your best friend, she isn’t acting like it.

Sounds like you need to figure out that friendship before you make any bridal party decisions. That does not sound like a good friend and definitely not someone you'd want to rely on to be in your bridal party.

Completely agree with the previous ladies on this thread! She doesn't sound like she's that great of a friend. A friend would support you, not bring you down...especially with something as important as your wedding. Planning a wedding is stressful enough, I don't think you want someone who makes mean comments to be involved.

It sounds like your friend can't get over this conflict that her and your FH had in the past. Maybe you need to really sit down with her and work things out...she's being ridiculous.

I would wait a while to make a decision. They don't usually need their dresses until about 6 month before. You can feel out how involved she wants to be. Also if she really is your best friend can you have a candid conversation with her about why she acting that way? I didn't pick one of my best friends for my bridal party, and it was a little drama, but when she asked why I was honest and straight forward. It was hard, but I think we are okay now! Good luck!

I agree, she doesn’t sound like much of a best friend. I definitely wouldn’t want anyone not supportive of my relationship at my wedding, let alone a bridesmaid.

No, I wouldn't. This behavior will only get worse as the wedding get closer. She clearly isn't a good friend. I'd just keep planning with your fiance & ask your other friends to be bridesmaids. If your friend's behavior improves and she becomes less negative, then ask her, but don't plan on asking her as of now.

Its you're day and you should ask yourself what will make u the happiest! Not having her there might make u a little sad but having her there might ruin the whole day for u. Try having a conversation with her and if she cant get on board then maybe its not a great idea for her to attend. Another option would be for her to come to the wedding, but not as a bridesmaid. That way u can compromise

Have you tried speaking to her about the actual issue? How does your fiance feel about that past conflict?

She sounds like a rude "friend". I would not want that energy around me during my wedding. I would talk to her not about the wedding, but more so try to gain understanding on why she is acting like that. Then you will know how to handle the situation.

Doesn't sound like she's a friend at all. She sounds like a Debby Downer! I wouldn't even want to be friends w/ her after those comments.

I agree that she's not being a good friend right now, but is this typical behavior for her? If not, I would definitely have a heart to heart before cutting her out altogether.

I would try to approach her and let her know that you love her and want her to be by your side on your day, but it hurts your feelings that she hasn't seemed happy or supportive. She may be feeling jealous and not even realize that she's been taking it out on you.

Beyond that, if her behavior continues, at least you know she's intentionally being a bad friend.

She doesn’t sound like a good friend. Maybe sit down and talk with her but you shouldn’t have to deal with drama regarding your wedding

I wouldn't make someone a bridesmaid if they were so negative about my wedding... most definitely not. She may be your "best friend" to you but that definitely seems one sided.. and a best friend generally wouldn't act this way to a loved one that is getting married. I wouldn't include her as a bridesmaid or with any planning of the wedding at all. Invite her as a guest. I am not sure what conflict your fiance and her had in the past, and maybe that's why she's acting this way, but if she doesn't want to support you then keep her out of the planning. Really rude she'd compare your fiance to her boyfriend in terms of the ring. A best friend wouldn't do that.... and that shouldn't even matter to her regardless. Maybe she is jealous.... lots of times that is what the case usually ends up being.

I don't know if this has been said yet, but maybe she's just jealous? I mean if she is talking about getting engaged to her boyfriend, maybe she's upset it hasn't happened yet and is taking out her frustrations on you? Idk just something to think about! But I definitely agree to figure out the friendship before making bridal party decisions.