My best friend is mad i didn’t ask her to be moh

After getting engaged my best friend was hurt I didn’t ask her to be my MOH, and I chose my other close friend for that role. I had still asked my best friend to be in my wedding party, but as a bridesmaid. She had decided to not be in the wedding party because she felt like she should have been my MOH and couldn’t stand beside me without that role on my wedding day. In making this choice, it was very difficult for me. But I knew if I asked her to be my MOH she would’ve made my day all about her, and would want to be the center of attention. From the very beginning she’s shown no interest in our conversations of wedding planning, until she found out I didn’t ask her to be my MOH. She then tried to insert herself heavily into the planning and was only being negative and telling me I’m doing everything wrong. To add to the reasons why I chose against her being MOH, she’s getting married the same year as myself. I had planned to include her in my bachelorette and bridal shower, but because I wasn’t planning it in her time frame, it became a huge problem that led to her causing yet another fight with me. I’ve reached the point where every conversation led to her starting an argument, and blaming me for “excluding her” in my wedding and the events that are leading up to my day. It’s been months since we’ve talked and I’ve been having people reach out to me saying she’s talking about me behind my back, saying I’ve done everything maliciously and I’ve put no effort into including her, when I’ve done just the complete opposite. I just can’t imagine myself having her attend without causing any issues, or making me uncomfortable, as well as my bridal party. I know this will cause the end of our friendship, or we could eventually rekindle our friendship in the future. But I have no desire to do either anytime soon. Does anyone have any input or advice on how I should better go about this situation? Or am I valid in my decisions moving forward?