My best friend, and Matron of Honor is moving to England and my feelings are all over the place.

Don’t think it makes you a bad friend. Just shows that you’ll miss her and don’t want her to miss out on your day cus you want her there

I think these are all totally normal feelings on both ends: missing one of your very best friends as she moves to a new country and the logistics of being unsure if your maid of honor can participate in or even attend your wedding!

Definitely make an effort to still keep her involved in the wedding planning, and share in that excitement. Also make sure to spend some quality, non-wedding time together before she makes the big move. You'll have about 6 months between her move and the wedding, in which time you two can make some logistical decisions about her role in your wedding. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. It's thoughtful if you think you can assist with travel accommodations if needed, but also remember there are other logistics such as child care(?), if she is/isn't able to get time off of work, etc.

Good luck!!

In front of it you're not being selfish. You realize what she has to do as a wife and her situation because her husband is in the military. I completely understand you because I am very blessed that my best friend is able to be there by my side when I elope with my fiance. And today when I was telling her our wedding date a part of me was so nervous that she was going to tell me she wouldn't be able to make it because of that day. She's my best friend she's always there for me and it would be hard should I have her there. I would honestly say if you can maybe help her fund the money to be there then why not. If she's that important to you to be there on the day of then I would let her know that and see what you both can work out.

You are not a bad friend! I think your reaction is completely normal.
My best friend/bridesmaid is currently out of the country and will be until a few weeks before my wedding. It’s definitely hard not having her here for things like my bridal shower, wedding planning, etc

But I also think it will be SO special having her at my wedding ❤️If you are able to arrange for your friend to make it to your wedding, I would definitely do it to give you something to look forward to on your wedding day — other than the whole getting married thing obviously 😂

You are not a bad friend you are a concerned friend and want your BFF to be there with you. Have you talked to her about it. Why not catch up with her over lunch and express your concerns. offer to help pay 1/2 of her ticket which I'm sure she will deny but nonetheless let her know how you feel without making her feel guilty and if she cant be there offer to video chat before and after the wedding vows!!!!!!!

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We did talk about it. She'll be over seas for four years. She said she'll have to have the bachelorette party planning be pushed to my other friend. And I'm like I'm not having my bachelorette party party without you. I'll push it up early. She did say I didn't have to pay half, because she and husband will figure it out. But I'm like...it's okay I'll pay half.