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My 22 month old ring bearer son

Rebekah, on June 19, 2019 at 11:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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My wedding planning is so set and lined up. I’ve got all my ducks in a row... i know unexpected things arise but i have huuuuge anxiety about my son and our wedding. He’s an extreamly hyper and emotionally triggered but happy little guy. It seemed fitting to have our daughter ( 5 ) and him join us as we officially tie the knot. But I’m terrified that he will scream and tantrum when we need to get through the ceremony. Does anyone have advice. I’ll hold him throughout if need be, I plan to bring a sucker and we do have childcare on hand but he shrieks like a banshee. Any advice or tricks? There really is just no way to have a plan lol.

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Latest activity by Heather, on June 20, 2019 at 1:58 PM

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CDickman · on June 19, 2019 at 11:59 PM
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Have someone he knows well sit in front row so he can sit with them. Understand that at that age the attention span is short. He may scream. Gave the person maybe have a quick Exit route if need be, Have a book or favorite quote toy with them. I would not have child care for right then. Kids that age can be loud being dropped off at school even when they know and live the teacher. I teach preschool.
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Iva · on June 20, 2019 at 12:04 AM
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I would sit him with a grandma or someone else he loves & listens to. Also maybe have him sitting at the beginning/end of a row, so that they can easily exit if it’s necessary for him to calm down.
I’d also make sure he is fed, not tired & not have eaten any sugar lol (it really does make some small children hyper) - those are all meltdown triggers.
Lastly, if he does scream a little, just go with the flow & try not to stress about it. I’m sure guests will understand & in some cases maybe even laugh it off.
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Ashley · on June 20, 2019 at 7:11 AM
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I totally feel you, my son will be about the same age for our wedding. I’m sure he’ll be fine sitting with grandma and Aunts. I’m more concerned about him getting down the aisle. Our ceremony is outside so even if he screams, it (hopefully) won’t be too bad. I agree with the others, have an exit plan and make sure his diaper is changed, he’s fed and current on his naps!!! Also, I plan to have snacks and an ice cold bottle of milk at the end of the aisle😂
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Sinéad · on June 20, 2019 at 7:17 AM
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Hey Rebekah! I think it’s such a sweet idea to have your children involved in your wedding but I totally get that your son won’t understand what he is meant to do and may have a tantrum. Are you planning on having both of your children walking down the aisle together? It may put him at ease if he is holding his sister's hand.
I would agree with the pp’s and have him sitting with a family member that he is happy and comfortable with. Also, sitting him at the edge of a row would allow for a quick getaway if he starts making a fuss.
There is obviously nothing you can do if he starts to have a tantrum, but you can take some precautions to keep him as happy as possible.
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Caytlyn · on June 20, 2019 at 7:37 AM
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Can he be distracted by a tablet or phone and some headphones? I know it's not ideal, but it can keep most kids quiet.
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Heather · on June 20, 2019 at 1:58 PM
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My ring bearer son turns 2 a few days before our wedding date. He’ll be guided down the aisle by our flower girl (5 year old friend of our 5 year old son), and then he’ll be seated with gramma and grampa in the front row with gram crackers and goldfish (his favorite snacks). Honestly, when you have kids that age at a wedding, you need to be ok with unexpected kid noises, and just expect to be able to laugh it off.
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