Devoted September 2019

Must haves

Ana, on June 13, 2019 at 9:14 AM Posted in Planning 0 16
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Ok so I’m 79 days or we are soo stressed out and both want it to be over. We love each other have lived together 3 years but I didn’t realize planning would be this stressful on us. At this point I feel like I’m running out of time and the little things don’t matter to us anymore 🤷‍♀️

Frim thw list below what what do I really need without being tacky

places cards( seating chart)
welcome sign ( or any signs)
arch for ceremony

thanks for letting me vent.


  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Danielle ·

    Out of all of that, you only really need (really should have) is the arch for the ceremony. A welcome sign would be my vote for 2nd thing. The rest, you can do without. Assigned seating is nice, but not worth the stress IMO. I attempted it, but couldn't figure it my guests will be seating themselves.

  • Melle
    Master June 2019
    Melle ·
    I prefer seating chart over place cards. Everything else isn't necessarily needed. Welcome sign would be nice and so are favors but if you're tight on money you can forego all those things on that list.
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
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    Omg thank you so much 😊 I fed the same way about the assigned seating
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
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    Thank you your help. I fee like I’m tight on time more then money.
  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
    ASMini914 ·
    I would defiantly recommend at least assigning your guests to tables. I went to a wedding a few weeks ago that was a seat yourself arrangement... resulted in literal chaos.
  • Leslie
    Devoted August 2019
    Leslie ·
    (Almost) date twins!

    I’d say seating depends on your crowd. We have less than 50 people so we’re letting guests seat themselves.
    I’d rate the arch high on the list too.

    If you sit and imagine your day with or without these things and you don’t really care, then knock it off your list. If you’re happy with everything you have/don’t have at your wedding, that’s all that matters! There’s no use stressing over things that aren’t going to make a difference to you in the end.
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
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    Aww thanks so much
  • A
    Master October 2019
    Angelena ·

    I say the arch and seating chart. Everything else isn't a necessity. Favors I would say next if it was something simplistic and cost effective. You don't really need a welcome sign if you have nice decor. I am not having a welcome sign but a sign with a phrase I really like at the beginning of the aisle propped next to a barrel that will have decor on top. Programs are a waste of paper in my mind and don't need a runner at all!

  • Kim
    Super September 2019
    Kim ·

    From your list, the only things I am doing are escort cards and Welcome sign. We are not doing the arch, décor is not a big priority. Doing those myself too.

  • Cyndy
    VIP May 2019
    Cyndy ·
    Personally I think the only thing you need is a seating chart to avoid confusion. Everything else is a nice to have. If your venue needs an arch to define the ceremony area that would be my second choice, but if it doesn’t you can skip that too. Make it easy on yourself because most people don’t care about the other things.
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
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    Thank you 🙏
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
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    Thank you 😊
  • Michaela
    Expert May 2020
    Michaela ·

    The seating chart is important depending on how many guests vs how many tables you have. If you only have exactly the amount of seats per guest, then guests are going to have a hard time seating themselves. If you have a few extra tables of space, then a seating chart isn't as necessary. I think everything else can be nixed. I get PPs point about the arch, but I guess that depends on your ceremony space. Will it look totally empty without it? Signs only if you need them.. like the bar menu is an important sign in my opinion

  • Nicole
    Super September 2020
    Nicole ·

    I think the seating chart is a must. If time provides, the welcome sign and arch. Everything else can be left out!

  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney ·

    I would say cut everything but the seating chart. Everything else is just frivolous.

  • Lenaya
    Dedicated January 2020
    Lenaya ·

    I think the only things you need off of that list is a seating chart, welcome sign and an arch for the ceremony. favors are ridiculous since you're already providing food (and maybe drinks) but i think a welcome sign/order of events is important to let people know what they can expect throughout the evening. a seating chart is obviously important so people know where they need to go sit.

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