Musicians' attire?

Is this what she does for a living? If so I wouldn't be too worried.

We had our DJ play acoustic guitar during cocktail hour. I would never presume I could tell him what to wear. Anyone that isn’t a bridesmaid or groomsmen does not need to match your wedding colors.

They just asked me what the attire was like black tie, formal, semi formal etc. I think asking them to have certain colors or patterns is a little overboard

Oh wow. I am having a string quartet for my ceremony and I didn’t even think to ask about attire! Thank you for bringing up this topic-I will definitely be inquiring about it now! As for your question- no I don’t think you are being a bridezilla at all to want your musicians to wear something appropriate for your wedding. They will be seen, watched, and photographed!

She’s a professional musician who doesn’t own a black top? That seems very dubious to me - black attire is totally standard for professional musicians. Seems really strange to me.

How is she a musician and not own black? That's all I own. Dress black is standard and usually expected in the music community. If I'm unsure what to wear to a gig, I just wear concert black.

View Quoted Comment I forgot to mention we are having a soloist for when I walk down the aisle and she is also wearing coordinating colors.

View Quoted Comment How is she a person with not ONE solid top in any color? Sweater, cardigan, blouse, v neck, solid dress, etc. It all sounds suspect to me. I'll be glad when it's all over.

View Quoted Comment No, she sings in the worship band at church but music isn't her full time job

Honestly, this would be very low on my list of concerns on my wedding day. I hope everything works or for you!

View Quoted Comment That’s great. But it’s in no way necessary for anyone else to wear coordinating colors. When I look back at my wedding pictures I don’t even notice what anyone is wearing.

View Quoted Comment To be fair, nothing is ever "necessary" in a wedding besides the presence of two people getting married and the officiant, right? I understand what you're saying (I doubt FH and I will get depressed looking at photos of them not coordinated and by no means will this ruin my day) but I'm frustrated that she seemed agreeable to the idea months ago then all of a sudden now is switching it up. Idk if you experienced more stress in the few weeks and days leading up to your wedding, but I am, and this seems so petty. For her to spring this on me (when we previously talked about it) and say she doesn't have any solid tops, just seems ridiculous to me. It's fine you don't notice what others are wearing in your wedding photos, but hopefully you can at least understand that part. I know at the end of the day FH and I won't be studying how they looked in the photos, it's just the principle. This is also for me to vent *deep breaths* lol

View Quoted Comment Thanks Carrie. I see you're getting married next month. congrats! Did you have a short engagement?

View Quoted Comment I totally understand. I cried every single day for weeks leading up to my wedding. But I realized I had to let it all go and most things were out of my control. Because all that mattered was that we were getting married. I wish you the best!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! I'm glad things worked out for you. Yes I def shed a few tears last night. Not about this specifically(because big picture who cares) but other things piling up. Yes I will try to keep it in perspective. These are "happy problems" and I'm so blessed that I get to have a big wedding and the important thing is I'm marrying the love of my life. Thanks for letting me vent!

We have two musicians singing and playing the guitar, piano, and cello during out ceremony. I'm not getting them to coordinate with our colors, and I've never heard of anyone telling their musicians what they should wear. I have always seen musicians in white or black for the wedding, though, because they know to wear something that's not distracting.

If she agreed to the color scheme before i don't understand why she waited to inform you. BUT then again it if they do it for a living i would say she has to have some professional attire.

I am having family friends provide ceremony music. They will be dressed wedding appropriate, but I am not requesting anything specific. They will for the most part be off to the side so visually not prominent. It didn’t occur to me to think about any flowers for them. Our readers also will be dressed for the wedding but not in anything more specific. Our wedding party is coordinated and fancy, beyond that I’m not worried about it. However, my musicians are volunteers, not paid.

its all up to you and where and what matters to you. I also think it is different when someone is hired and being paid. Part of any job is showing up dressed appropriately. If it really matters to you maybe try to find another singer who is more amiable to wearing what you want, or maybe place the singer somewhere more out of view?

Good luck!

View Quoted Comment We've been engaged since Sept 29th of last year. Just had my first dress fitting this week and it finally feels real!!

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Seriously. Even as a person who was just in high school band I had to wear white top and black bottoms. I'm shocked that a professional musician doesn't have any black and white or all black clothes.