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Jaedan
Just Said Yes September 2023

Multiple Siblings-in-law

Jaedan, on January 24, 2020 at 4:46 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
So my fiance is the oldest of 7 kids and I'm the youngest of three sisters. I'm not close with my sisters, so they won't be part of the bridal party, but I know my fiance is including at least one of his brothers and I'd like to include the oldest of his sisters, but I don't want to be rude by only picking one. For reference, she's the only one we see frequently, and while we're not especially close, I would feel bad not including her. Am I being a jerk for only asking her?

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Latest activity by Jeanie, on January 26, 2020 at 4:09 AM
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Personally, I wouldn't pick one over the others as that could cause unnecessary drama. Since you are especially close, I wouldn't have her in the wedding. I think you would feel worse if you only choose one sister and the others got upset.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    If she’s the only one you’re close to, I don’t see the issue.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Your bridal party is your so you decide especially if you have a relationship with her although it almost sounds as if you feel you should because you two have a decent relationship. Your nearest and dearest should be in your bridal party so do not feel obligated to invite her. If you do, maybe the others may feel odd but realistically if you have a better relationship with one and want her you are not a jerk. However, realistically pending on how his sisters are they may feel a bit jealous they were not ask.

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  • Jaedan
    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Jaedan ·
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    Just a quick edit that I thought I should mention: I'm closer with her because she lived with my fiance and their dad, so I saw her more often, the other two sisters live with their respective moms, who are not attending. I've only seen the other two sisters a handful of times over 3 years, whereas I see this sister a few times a month.
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  • L
    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    Instead of being a bridesmaid have her do a reading, some honored position.

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    Judith ·
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    It is fine to pick one sister, or 1 in-law, or one cousin. And not all in a family. In real life everyone knows in most families, at least large ones, some pairs of siblings are closer than others . Tit for tat, "it is only fair" stuff is for children. Have whomever you are close to, and no one else. There is no "should do" here for etiquette. It is solely the bride or groom's choice, who is in the wedding party, and what outfit they wear.
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I think it’s fine to only have one sister. Common sense says you’re not going to be able to ask all his siblings. If you did that and asked friends, and went out on a limb and asked your sisters, you’d end up having 15 bridesmaids! Don’t feel bad, just ask who you want and be happy with your decision. Its your wedding so no one else needs to approve your choices.
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