multiple MOH & toasts

The responsibility of planning is on you. BP's only responsibility is to show up in their dress, mostly sober. If they offer to help, great, but don't delegate tasks otherwise.

To answer your question, though, you could request they write and give a speech together or have them keep their speeches within a time frame.

Your bridal party has no responsibilities other than showing up in the dress of your choice.

..just wondering what other brides did with multiple maid of honors with the speeches..

The solution is to ask them whether they all even want to give speeches. If they all do, have a couple of them speak at the rehearsal dinner.

And also, don't disregard the advice you're given about your expectations. Your "responsibility of planning" line made me want to vomit.

Spread the responsibilities? Which responsibilities are you referring to? Also, when they are too many speeches guests my zone out.

My sister and I were co maids of honor for our other sister. I don't know how well yours know each other, but we just did a joint speech, kind of playing off each other in speaking and sharing memories, playfully interrupting each other (planned but came off as impromptu), and it went SO well, people talked about our speech even after the wedding. So that may be an option. IF you're sure they all want to speak - I would've preferred not to speak at all if I had the option

I just meant planning in regards to coordinating bachelorette party and bridal shower. I'm sorry if that came across wrong but this thread has really made me second guess even asking for advice or input on wedding wire moving forward. it gave me a bad feel for the environment and attitudes of this forum. I was just looking for suggestions not criticism on my bridal party. so many people are getting hung up on one line that isn't even the main point of my topic. I'm sorry for wording it wrong but again I was looking for input on the speech portion of the reception and what worked well. thank you so much to those who gave constructive input without being condescending. it's a stressful time to plan a wedding so the more positive support the smoother the process goes!

Joint speech, if they want to give one. Whoever offers to host and plan your bridal shower and Bachelorette will do so.

"coordinating bachelorette party and bridal shower"

Your bridal party is not obligated to throw your a bachelorette or bridal shower. We are trying to communicate that you need to readjust your expectations so you treat these people with respect and appreciation for standing next to you in support of your union.

Ugh, our tones.

OP, wedding wire will be immensely helpful in planning your wedding moving forward so I wouldn't write it off just yet. The advice you receive here will be truthful, blunt and all made in an effort for you to host the best wedding possible within your means so you'll have happy guests which speak of 'the best wedding they've attended'.

You should ask your MOH's if they want to all speak, not everyone is comfortable with public speaking and the toast isn't a requirement, yes it's very nice if they chose to but again it's not a must. If they want to do it maybe a time frame will help--2 minutes or so. Too many speeches or too long speeches and the guests will lose attention.

It's also very nice if your MOH's are involved with planning the Bach party and bridal shower, again though it is not a requirement to being an MOH.

Thank you. having a time frame and having joint speeches sounds like great ways to accommodate having multiple moh's.

I am not assigning anyone responsibilities or expecting anything from my bridal party other than support. I chose my 3 moh's because they each have had a significant role in my life and have been there for me even when I didn't expect it. my fiance and I started our first year together 2,000 miles apart and I know I wouldn't be getting ready to marry him if it wasn't for the love and support of my Moh's. they also have taken the initiative and offered to help me with the planning and (I guess used to loosely) "responsibilities" without me ever asking them. just as when they get married I will do the same without even thinking twice. just so that I'm clear and not giving the impression that I'm some "bridezilla" dictating the expectations. again they offered because that is the type of selfless and giving people that they are. I wasn't expecting to have to explain all of that when asking for advice about speeches but again I guess it's my fault for not elaborating enough..

I do appreciate the open and honest input. I have posted on other forums for other sites asking advice such as if anyone else has done multiple mohs.. and love the opportunity to hear other people's experience and collaborating in an open discussion. however I was never told before that my post made someone want to vomit or being told that I'm not treating my friends, the people that I live and breathe with, inappropriately.

thank you thank you to everyone who has shared what they have done and experienced! your comments have definitely helped clear this "murky" thought process in my head. and I love hearing the perspectives from both the bride side and also the MOH side! thank you

I hate wedding speeches so I didn't have any at my own. I would also suggest if more than one wants to give a speech they keep it short.

My sisters are my Co MOHs and I assume they'll do a joint speech. If they want to do it separately that's fine, or if one wants to do all the talking that's fine. I'd encourage all speeches to be capped at 2-3 minutes though.

Wedding speeches are one of my favourite parts of a persons wedding - (not an open floor with every second guest, but organised and planned speeches). Evidently, I'm a bit of a weirdo, because people seem to be unimpressed by them..

I have 2 MOH's and so FH has asked his bestman and a groomsman to speak so that they're alternating. Our speeches will run as follows:

MC opening.

FOB

MOG

Best Man

Matron of Honour

Groomsman

Maid of Honour

Groom

We have given everyone a 2-3 minute time limit. So half an hour of speeches while we wait for main course to be served.

I'm planning on having one do a reading at the ceremony and splitting it that way. Also Amy R I am totally with you about thinking twice asking for advice on here! I can't believe how catty people are getting over a pretty simple question.

You are making your bridesmaids plan your wedding???

Thanks Sarah for the outline! that's a good way to balance out the bride and groom side for speeches!

thank you Martha! that is a creative way to split up the speaking part. appreciate your perspective!

katelynn.. read all the words and comments before you post please. not really in the mood to repeat myself for what feels like the hundredth time. the title of my post is in regards to speeches from my Moh's if I wanted people to comment on my bridal party "planning my wedding".. (which they aren't) I would of asked for that advice and titled to post that instead.

I have 5 bridesmaids since I wasn't picking and choosing MOHs, I told them all that if they wish to all give a speech they should probably keep it about a minute.