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ShanynL
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Multiple Flower Girls and Ring Bearers

ShanynL, on March 16, 2017 at 10:15 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 25
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What are your thoughts on having multiple flower girls and ring bearers? I have over 20 first cousins, and I'd like to include more than just 2 of them. How many of them should I include so it doesn't look too crowded?

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Latest activity by Audrianna, on March 23, 2019 at 12:24 PM
  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    One or two of each. If they're invited, they are included. One of my colleagues said, (correctly, IMHO) that every little kid increases your stress by 50%.

    It's not the Sound of Music or Annie. If you can't pick a couple without feeling guilty? Skip it.

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  • Alison
    Expert July 2017
    Alison ·
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    I agree. I've never seen more than 2 each, and trying to get little ones to cooperate, even if there are just a few, is a major headache.

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  • kirackle
    Super September 2017
    kirackle ·
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    I am having 5 flower girls and know it's too many but that's because I have 3 nieces and my FI has 2. One of my nieces was adorable and so sweet when she was asking about being a flower girl when I told her I was getting married that I decided to go ahead and have all 5. It was an all or none situation.

    With cousins, you can pick the ones you are closest to or skip it entirely. Having 20 sounds like a nightmare imo. No matter what my nieces were going to be included in everything anyway but now you are going to have 20 kids running around when you get ready the morning of and at the rehearsal dinner. That's a lot of mouths to feed, plus you have to invite their parents to the rehearsal dinner too.

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  • J. Clo
    Master May 2018
    J. Clo ·
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    Two

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  • Jamie
    Super September 2017
    Jamie ·
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    Both my FSIL's had two of each in their weddings (their nieces and nephews). They walked down the aisle holding hands. It was so cute! I would think more than two is a little much.

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  • Rebecca
    VIP June 2016
    Rebecca ·
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    I think two of each would be the limit for me

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  • KCJV
    Super February 2018
    KCJV ·
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    My FH has 20 nieces and nephews, and we are only including one of his nieces as flower girl and my nephew as ring bearer. All the others will attend the wedding but not be in the wedding party. So far, no one has been offended by our choice, so I don't think you need to worry too much about it.

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  • MrsB
    VIP June 2017
    MrsB ·
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    We have 2 ring bearers and 3 flower girls. But, our youngest flower girl is my niece, and she'll only be 15 mos, so we're not super worried if she doesn't make it down the aisle.

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  • Emily
    Dedicated August 2017
    Emily ·
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    I will have 3 flower girls (3 neices) and 2 ring bearers (my nephew and my son) they will all walk down together.

    Our wedding is going to be very laid back so we can make last min adjustments for unexpected behavior. I couldn't imagine not having them be a part of the wedding.

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  • Mrs. Knolle
    Master July 2016
    Mrs. Knolle ·
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    We had 3 RBs and 2 FGs. They were all between the ages of 2 and 7. They were all amazing and I'm so glad we had them all. I think more than 6 kids total would have been a lot for walking down the aisle though.


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  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
    MrsSki ·
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    We have three FG and three RB. It's a lot, but they're so darn cute. They may pitch a fit, refuse to go down the aisle, or do all the things you hope your kids don't do in public, but that's a risk I was willing to take!

    Kirackle makes a great point about the rehearsal dinner though. If we hadn't had so many kids, we would've invited 15 fewer people to the rehearsal dinner. Make sure you're prepared to host the kids and parents (and any siblings not in the wedding) for the rehearsal dinner

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  • KJC
    Beginner November 2017
    KJC ·
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    We are having 3 FG & 3 RB. I have 20 nieces & nephews & my FH has 1 of each. So 4 total from my side & 2 from his side of family. It is a lot & I'm sure they won't all be agreeable he whole time or maybe even any of the time! But, I have a VERY large family & I am a nanny & I am just very accustomed to having kids around. It doesn't bother me when they act up! Also all of their parents are in the wedding and will be with them all day so myself & FH will not have to worry about taking care of them. I think it just depends on what you are ok with! Best of luck!

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  • Jamie
    Master May 2017
    Jamie ·
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    I have 2 flower girls and 1 ring bearer. Even I have bets about the ring bearer making it down the aisle. Don't stress yourself out about it.

    Remember that children are like small gangs so if one starts to veer off course several of the pack will follow.

    (I say this as a mother of 5)

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  • MrsBanks
    Expert April 2018
    MrsBanks ·
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    I'm having 3 flower girls,and 2 ring bearers. But I'm doing something a little different. I say its whatever YOU want. A lot of people try to tell you traditional is the way, but its your day. Do what you want!

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  • CoBoundAdv
    Expert October 2017
    CoBoundAdv ·
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    I have one flower girl and 2 ringbearers. It's my niece and 2 nephews. It's really preference.

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  • Red2018
    VIP August 2018
    Red2018 ·
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    Two flower girls and one ring bearer - and my parents think it is a terrible idea but oh well

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  • JJWed2018
    Super June 2018
    JJWed2018 ·
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    I think it's ok to have more than one but not too many!! Two flower girls would be cute if they're walking down holding hands or something sweet. I don't really see how you can make more than one ring bearer... but I guess you could. I am having 5 kids in my ceremony. One flower girl who will be 3 years old. My fiancée niece who will be 13 will be pulling a wagon with his nephew who will be 1 in it and he will have a bubble gun to hold, and my niece who will be 8 months will also be in the wagon. And then his other niece who will be 6 will be the last to walk down the aisle holding a sign that says "uncle Bryce here comes your bride" if you want a lot of kids then try getting creative with things for them to do that will hopefully make the guests say "aww"

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  • Alyssa
    Expert September 2017
    Alyssa ·
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    We are having 3 flower girls and one ring bearer. I think it will be just fine.

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  • KisstheKochs
    Super September 2017
    KisstheKochs ·
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    I am having 3 flower girls and 1 ring bearer. I was originally having just my 2 little cousins at the flower girls but then found out I was going to be an aunt! My niece will be born any day now and will be around 6 months come the wedding so of course I'm including her! Her parents (my brother and SIL) will either be pulling her down in a wagon or carrying her.. depends on her mood that day Smiley smile

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  • K
    Just Said Yes July 2017
    Kiah ·
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    Man oh man, people on here are no fun. I'm having 11 kids come down the aisle at mine because I think that's FUN. Am I going to be managing them? No, of course not. I'll be assigning one friend that duty plus the parents are all there. I say don't listen to everyone who can't handle more than 2 kids. Have as many as you damn want, just get someone to sign up as the wrangler.

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