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Just Said Yes September 2016

Multiple Family Weddings Close Together

Future Firefighter's Wife, on January 29, 2016 at 6:56 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I'm needing help with how to deal with some upset family members because of my engagement and wedding. Let me start that my fiance & I have been together for over 5 years. We got engaged last November after talking about getting this fall for months. His cousin & his girlfriend were engaged a few months before us, in June, and we didn't know that they had set a date. My fiance & I had narrowed down to two weekends and we decided that we would check with them before finalizing our date. We had Sept 3 & Sept 10 and after checking, found out that they had set Sept 10 but had not told anyone yet. Needless to say, they think we picked the 3rd just to get married the weekend before them and it has caused tons of drama. I don't want them to be mad at us and want them to realize that it's not a race & we aren't trying to get married before them. If two people in your family were getting married back to back weekends, would it be a big deal? Would it cause extra stress on family members, etc?

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Latest activity by Delisa, on January 29, 2016 at 7:31 PM

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Brittany · on January 29, 2016 at 6:59 PM
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Me and my cousin are getting married 3 months apart, exactly. I don't find it an issue and neither has my family.
I know it's not back to back but no one has seemed like it's an issue. Are they traveling far? If they are maybe scheduling off work for two weekends might be tricky but other than that, who doesn't love a party for family get togethers?! I do!
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Just Said Yes September 2016
Future Firefighter's Wife · on January 29, 2016 at 7:04 PM
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Nobody in their family (that I know of) would be traveling more than 10-20 miles at the most...we're both staying close to home for the ceremonies & the receptions and there are very few people in the family that work weekends. We have four weddings next year (including ours) on his side of the family so I'm just upset as to why ours is the only one that they are mad about.
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cjs_mommy_337 · on January 29, 2016 at 7:04 PM
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My aunt (uncle's ex wife) is getting married the week before me. I'm sure it won't be a big deal at all.
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NowASeptMrs · on January 29, 2016 at 7:07 PM
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I don't think it's a huge deal, I had 4 cousins get married one summer. The issue is travel. That's two weekends and a row to get off but sept 3 is Labor Day weekend...
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Becoming A Mrs! · on January 29, 2016 at 7:13 PM
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We have 3 family weddings this summer. They are in 3 different states. Not sure how many members of FH's family will be able to make it to ours. Ours is last, and the farthest away from where majority of the family members live. Thats a lot of traveling expenses for people to make. Kind of a bummer, but we will enjoy our day regardless.
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Sqwiggy · on January 29, 2016 at 7:14 PM
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No big deal unless travel was involved.
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Mrs. Combs · on January 29, 2016 at 7:24 PM
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My FH's cousin is getting married the weekend before we are. We only see them once a year at Christmas and there will only be about 6 people that will be invited to both so I don't see it as a big deal and I hope his cousin doesn't either!
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Delisa · on January 29, 2016 at 7:31 PM
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If the wedding is local then I don't see a problem. Now if I had to travel it could be potentially due to cost and taking time off work. Although, I would do my best to make it work.
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