Mt.Philo, VT wedding

Can you elaborate more? What's your venue?

Also when is the peak foliage season in Vermont? Your date seems early to me.

She's about right with her timeline for peak foliage season. It depends on the weather, but it's tyically late September-mid October when the colors start to pop. (I grew up in Central Vermont).

For OP- You cannot control what your family will do, say, feel and if they are so bent out of shape that you're not doing this "the traditional way" then that's their problem and not yours. My only advice if you are trying to appease them is see if you and FH are able to find elements that are traditional to incorporate them into your ceremony. Good luck.

What do you mean by "adult"? I don't think you need to worry about it being fancy to please other people. It's YOUR wedding and if you're trying to make it a certain way for everyone else, it won't be special to you.

If they love you, they will support your day no matter what you choose.

I'm sorry but your wedding is in 4 months and you don't have this figured out?

Fellow Vermonter here :-). I know it's late to think about this with a wedding this fall... but maybe think about having the ceremony on Philo (I love that by the way... stunning views!) With a reception elsewhere in downtown Burlington? The courtyard Marriott has banquet rooms, as does hotel Vermont. Echo has great options as well with sugarsnap as their preferred vendor.

Try and make peace with disappointing your mother. I know thats easier said than done but really its her issue to deal with, if you refuse to engage her.

I agree with cp802 (I'm also a Vermonter) mt philo is a beautiful place to have a ceremony and maybe to "fancy it up" for your family you could do a reception close by. But in the end, it's your choice bc it's your wedding... You don't have to do anything to please others. Make it what you want.

Thanks for your comments everyone! I was thinking of doing a reception else where after but since it's a sunday wedding, the only date was Oct 8th, most of my side has to leave that same day for work. My FH and I are paying for the whole thing, but I will put the idea out there for my parents to see if they would approve that. But as of right now we are doing a reception the day before downtown Burlington, since most people are leaving sunday. The main thing that started this whole thing was that I wanted to do an original invite (I love alpacas and drew the invite with alpacas/alpacasso) and that is what they think is childish. I still like cartoons and Disney, I'm a child at heart but my parents think it's unacceptable to have any element of my true self at the wedding bc it's childish and I will be made fun of.