Mrs. vs Ms.

If you're not changing, I'm pretty sure it's correct to stay "Ms."

I can't really answer your question (sorry!). But as a teacher calling everyone by their last name all day, and being called by my last name by the kids, I have to say I never call anyone Mrs. Everyone is Ms. and most of my colleagues and students do this as well.

Ms. Would be appropriate. I think depending on who knows your not changing your name and how much you are around fh ppl will still call you mrs. His last name esp when with him.

I think Mrs. doesn't necessarily have to mean that it's your husband's name, simply that you're married.

Before I was married, I was Ms. Maiden to my students. Now I'm Mrs. B, but expect it will shorten to Ms. as the year goes on. As long as it's not Miss, I think you're good. :-)

Use whatever you want. The term Mrs. is from an older generation where a woman was defined by her marital status. Her name became "Mrs. Jones" as she was "wife of husband" and no longer her own self. Some people continue the tradition because they like the formality. Some find it downright offensive. Others just like the way it sounds. Miss meant you were unmarried. With the rise of the women's liberation movement, Ms. came into popularity to mean neither married or unmaried, "it doesn't define me, you don't see men changing their title." It's 2015, and you can make up whatever rule you want... Ms. Miss or Mrs. You can keep your name, take his, hyphenate, have him take yours, or even do what a former mayor of L.A. did - combine parts of both names and create an all new name for both husband and wife. Though this became a sticky situation in the divorce.

Thanks everyone! It's so nice to get a wide range of opinions from a wide range of people. It's good to consider multiple perspectives.

I have a few guests that we are inviting that kept their maiden name. I addressed the invites as Mr. Smith and Mrs. Jones. They were family and that's how we've always done it for them. So I think Mrs. Is the proper way as it indicates that you are married.

Hmmm ... I always thought that Mrs. was just a abbreviated form of the possessive Mr.'s. ?

My mother never changed her name. She's been married to my father for almost 38 years. When she went to college - mid 1970s all the students were classified as Ms. or Mr., so she didn't have to change a thing. My divorced friends primarily use Ms.

Of course, when my grandmother - Mom's MIL - addresses her annual birthday card to her, she has always hyphenated her name. I don't think she's quite gotten over the fact that when her daughter married, she changed her name, but both of her sons married women who didn't change. And their grandchildren were given hyphenated last names.

It's personal preference. Do what you wish as it's you who will be sporting the title/name.

FH is taking my surname (moving his surname to a second middle - which has to happen about 6 months prior to the wedding, thanks to crappy gov paperwork) but I'll definitely be going by Mrs.

A- I'll be married so it seems fitting. B- There are so many S-verging-on-a-Z sounds in my names that if I were to go by Ms people would probably sound like they were buzzing when addressing me.

I know several women who didn't take their husband's last name but are still Mrs. It just means that they are married.

I'm not taking my FHs name, but I'll still be going by Mrs.

I'm keeping my last name, however, I will change it to Mrs.

Miss for single women, usually young girls under 20.

Mrs for married

Ms for single women when they reach adulthood and used by people who are not aware of a woman's marital status.

For women who choose to keep their maiden name it is more common to use Ms. than Mrs. as it gives the impression of being married to their father.

But, usually the woman or man does not refer to him/herself in the sense of Miss, Ms, Mrs or Mr. It is usually used by other people when addressing someone whether verbal or written. When doing so people tend to default to Ms. unless they know your marital status. So in a sense it's not really about "your" preference. Chances are if you and your husband are formally introduced it will be Mr John Doe and his wife Ms Jane Smith.

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I think it's fine to use Mrs. with your maiden name since it does indicate that you're married, but for me personally it always seemed like it was referring to an older generation--Mrs. Maiden is my mother, Mrs. Married is my MIL. I prefer Ms., regardless of which last name I'm using.

You are still a Mrs!

This prompted me to look this up in the Oxford dictionary, very interesting history behind the whole miss, ms., Mrs. After reading I don't think it really matters, do what you want.

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Still a Mrs. since you are married

Still a Mrs. I always thought Ms. was for divorced ladies. I'm not all that proper though so you can take my opinion with a grain of salt :-D