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Just Said Yes June 2018

Mr. & Mrs. or Dr. & Mrs.

christine, on October 22, 2017 at 1:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

Hey everyone! I'm seeking some prefix advice and any and all suggestions are appreciated!

Future husband is an anesthesiologist and I am trying to determine what titles we should use for announcements, signage, wedding décor, etc. For example, will we be announced as, "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" or "Dr. and Mrs. John Smith"?

I think "Mr. & Mrs." is more appropriate for the wedding because it says - hey we are married now! However, FH thinks it should be Dr. and Mrs. since those technically will be our titles.

Which do you think is a better option??

17 Comments

Latest activity by RustyTheDog, on October 22, 2017 at 3:51 PM
  • Constance
    VIP October 2017
    Constance ·
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    Does he prefer Mr. or Dr.?

    ETA: I misread. Definitely go Dr. since it's his preference for how people should refer to him.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    Dr and Mrs, no question about it

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  • S
    Dedicated April 2019
    Sassi ·
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    Dr. and Mrs. He spent countless hours and dollars earning his title. Saying "Dr." isn't just for his patients.

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  • BlushWedding
    Devoted August 2018
    BlushWedding ·
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    Dr and Mrs. he worked hard for that title!

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  • BohoRN2017
    Expert November 2017
    BohoRN2017 ·
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    Dr and Mrs, it's what he prefers and is correct.

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  • fallinthegarden
    Master October 2017
    fallinthegarden ·
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    If he wants Dr and Mrs, use that. It's his title, his choice.

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  • AshleyR
    Master January 2021
    AshleyR ·
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    If he wants to be referred to as "Dr." then that answers your question.

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  • christine
    Just Said Yes June 2018
    christine ·
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    Oh! I didn't know I was so wrong! If 6/6 say Dr. and Mrs. then I am happy to accept that and move on to all of the other details that need to be fussed over! Smiley winking

    THANKS!

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  • Shonda
    Expert February 2019
    Shonda ·
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    Dr. trumps Mr. every time. I understand where you're coming from wanting to be announced as Mr. & Mrs. but Dr. & Mrs. is politically correct.

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  • LillyBean17
    Master October 2017
    LillyBean17 ·
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    Dr. is the appropriate first salutation. Ex.: If a female was the doctor, it would be Dr. and Mr. The higher title always goes first.

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  • Mackenzie
    Savvy October 2017
    Mackenzie ·
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    Go with his preference. My FH is also an anesthesiologist but he perfers mr and mrs just because basically all of our guests are Dr other than family.

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  • Jennifer
    Devoted March 2017
    Jennifer ·
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    I'm a physician (and my husband is not). We just used Mr. and Mrs. because I thought "Dr. and Mr." looked and sounded strange. Didn't bother me, but it's a preference thing I agree.

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  • Sara P.
    VIP October 2018
    Sara P. ·
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    I would go with his preference, which it sounds like he prefers Dr.

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  • stephanie
    Super October 2017
    stephanie ·
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    I realized sometime after sending out invites that I forgot to address the doctors on our list as doctor and I still feel terrible about it. They are our friends so I'm not used to thinking of them as "doctor" anything, so it completely slipped my mind when addressing invites (we were friends with almost all of them prior to them getting their degrees).

    None of my friends commented and I doubt any were offended, but since he expressed a preference I would definitely go with that!

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  • lilam18
    Expert July 2018
    lilam18 ·
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    I think "Dr. and Mrs." (or "Dr. and Mr.") sounds pretty awesome! Embrace his hard work for the title.

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  • WED18
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    WED18 ·
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    Proper etiquette is to use Dr. and Mrs.

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  • RustyTheDog
    Dedicated December 2017
    RustyTheDog ·
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    FH and I are both "Drs" but PhD not MD, so although we go by Dr.___ at work, we aren't doing that for our wedding since I don't want someone to assume that I can save them in a medical emergency! Also, then being announced "The Drs. ______" sounds weird. My aunt insists on it though (she is an MD and always wants to be called Dr.), so for the brunch she is hosting we are "The Drs." but not at anything else or during the ceremony. Somehow one Dr. sounds ok to me (particularly if MD), but Drs. sounds weirder lol.

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