Moving wedding date up

We moved our wedding date from 12/1/18 to 5/19/18. We had to eat the costs of some of our deposits but we're still coming out less than what we would have if we went through with our original plan. We didn't formally send anything out but we had people that wanted to be kept in the loop for what we were planning. We went from 150+ people to 35 people. We explained what we were doing to those who wanted to be kept in the loop and they completely understood. At first we were very back and forth on whether it was a good idea or not but FH's grandmother is dealing with stage 4 lung cancer and it's more important for us to move up the date, have something intimate, and have her there for our big day than to try to have a big party and make everyone else happy

Thank you for the advice! My grandmother just got diagnosed with a brain tumor-not doing the greatest but we are praying with some treatment we can get time. We get very uneasy keeping our date in May. Our original STDs we had over 200 invited. So we are scaling WAY back. More important for her to be there and for us to enjoy the day with her and other close relatives and our closest friends

@Susan unfortunately, FH and I know all too well what you're dealing with. Keeping your grandmother in our thoughts. And do what's best for you and your family

Our legal wedding was 2.5 months early in my father's hospital room. Dad was fighting cancer when I got engaged and this was always on my mind. Long story short he was loosing his fight and I talked to DH and we decided to do it in about 2 or so weeks no matter where was ( rehab or hospital). I called the minister ( my lifelong friends aunt) and she was on board. Got dresses altered (between Xmas and NY so I paid out the butt I am sure) and got a marriage license. There was 14 people including us in his room, 3/4 Bm's in dresses, a cake and some food. That is my legal wedding, Dad passed 4.5 days later. He was waiting for me to get married, and we had pics from that day at the funeral. When our big day rolled around, everyone knew we were married and nobody cared.

That is so sweet-made me cry! That helps a lot! People who truly love you will support whatever decision we make!

I would also talk to your grandmother. We went through something similar with my dad and our niece. (Dad was having severe complications from liver transplant while teenage niece had been diagnosed with cancer). Dad felt if we moved it up we were giving up on him. I think it actually gave him something to fight for.

FYI both made it to the Wedding!

Prayers for you and you do what's best. Both sets of grandparents have passed on. How I would love for them to be here for mine. Best wishes with whatever decision you decide on.

@Susan M I am SO sorry for your loss! I am glad he was able to see you get married!

Thanks Courtney, I have ZERO regrets doing it for him. My mother passed when I was just a kid so he was my only parent for nearly 30 years. I was not about to lose him before I could get married, and he was holding on for it.