Moving up wedding... am i crazy?

I feel its kind of iffy. You could always do a ceremony in july and reception in the fall. Then like you said you could also keep the wedding and postpone honeymoon. Honestly I dont know but if it was me I wouldnt shoot for a big wedding in July, even though its 3 mo from now. I wouldn’t want to have to postpone again because things haven’t calmed down. Sorry im no help lol.

You know the date in july sounds super cute because of what you said about your parents and grandparents! however i think it doesn't make sense to move it up given the pandemic. it makes more sense to move it later, in my opinion.

Thanks ladies! I forgot to mention we are having a microwedding-- 23 people including us. Gives us a bit more flexibility where we don't have to worry about having a big crowd. We were thinking of downsizing even more if needed.

Alternatively, we were thinking of getting legally married in July and have our sentimental ceremony/reception in July. I think part of it is I'm still hooked on the idea of doing everything in one day.

I'm a July 25th bride - I haven't postponed but I am aware that I may need to. The smaller gathering size sounds more promising than a larger event and your state might matter. We just don't know what July will hold - I'm cautiously optimistic we will be able to move forward with some version of our wedding, but the whole thing has caused me much anxiety. On the other hand we don't know what September will hold either. Things could calm down and then flare up again. My heart goes out to all 2020 brides as this is not what we signed up for! Best of luck to you!

Can you move the wedding to October so he’ll be done with the exam before the wedding?

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The thought crossed our minds to do that --- unfortunately, they didn't specify a specific date for the exam. They said tentatively after 9/15. So it would be a gamble whether they stick to mid-September or later.

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Definitely true! The unknown is definitely the scariest component. Best wishes to you as well and sending positive vibes your way!

Just your immediate family may mean people from four or 10 different households. If everyone is back working and going to school then, not much risk. But if not, how many different households of your families will be " just family". 4 grandmother's and grandfather's, with 10 school age or college kids working in the summer? Or 2 sets of parents, 2 sibs, and you.
I would not move anything forward, just over being relaxed before or after an exam. Summertime, most infectious diseases go way down. Sept should be one of the safest months, even with people at work.

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Oh got it. Then if it's still tentative, I would just plan the wedding for when you want it/for when you think is the best timing for you and your guests regardless of the exam. For all you know they could push it to October or November or something and then this wouldn't matter anyway. I would try to just plan without having that in mind! I am sure he will enjoy his wedding day regardless, unless the exam is the NEXT day or something lol. Actually my friend took the LSATs the morning after my wedding and she said the wedding was a great way to destress the day before

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Haha I love that your friend did that! I also did the same thing when taking my boards last year. It is a great way to decompress for sure. Very true point.... it's a gamble whether this is even an issue.

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Immediate family would likely be his parents and my parents. He does have siblings from 2 different households, both are single. Worst case scenario it would be just parents for sure to limit exposure. I agree that September is definitely safer all considering. I think we're going to stick with September and re-analyze everything the first week of May to get a better idea of the trends in terms of hospitalizations and resources available.

View Quoted Comment How frustrating. But if he has no exam date exactly, not set, if he is disciplined about studying ( and it was due now, so he knows what is on it ) by the end of August he should have learned everything, thoroughly. And not be stressed out over it. He will unexpectedly had extra time, May, June, July August to study. What he does not know by then, he may never learn. I put off taking some boards after my first husband's death. Just days before they happened, so my studying was nearly done. When the next opportunity to take them came, two months ahead I set a study schedule. Let than 3 weeks part time, I realized I knew all I likely ever would. Very relaxed for a month, took them and did well. But the extra time of studying, though I learned little, gave me great confidence that I was ready. And exam stress disappeared. Nice feeling.

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Judith, thank you so much for your words! They truly resonated with me since I am a believer in "learning" your stuff versus memorizing. If he does continue to study like the exam is in July, his level of comfort with the material should be greater by the time the fall comes around. Thank you again for sharing your perspective.

Also, I am sorry you had to go through such a tragic loss -- losing someone so important is very difficult.