Moving in with In Laws

Do they have room for you to store things? Or are you getting a storage unit?

Are they offering to let you store things at their house? Do you have a storage unit or other place to keep things until you move out? Otherwise, don't register for gifts and people will give you money. Then you can save the money for items when you end up moving out.

My FH wanted us to live in his mom's basement. I'm really happy she said no because we officially don't even talk anymore.

I hope you and your future in laws get along great!

You can still register for things you may need eventually, however you do need to speak to them about if they are comfortable storing anything. If they do not have the space/don't want to store it you will have to invest in a storage unit.

You and your FH need to decide this really. You can either forgo registering, skip having a Bridal Shower, and take the cash people will give, do a small registry for things you can use right now, or go ahead and just register so you have everything you might need when you do move and jsut invest in place to store it for that time.

If it were me, I wouldn't register for anything in the hopes of getting cash so that I wouldn't have to live with my new in-laws.

View Quoted Comment This. All day long, this!

Store! In my life when I've had to downsize there have been people in my life encouraging me to "jusf get rid of that junk!" While there were definitely things that I needed that advice with, I found it to, overall, be expensive advice.
Specifically, I had people recommend I get rid of my kitchen stuff when I didn't have one for a year or so. "Oh, dishes are cheap!" Mine aren't. "Where are you going to put it all?!" I'm going to pack it all up appropriately and store it. It would have cost thousands to replace during an already expensive move. Kept it.
Register as normal. If you have to pay for storage, use cash gifts to help pay for it.

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My thoughts exactly!

View Quoted Comment Yes yes yes this!!! Otherwise you’ll have to find out if there’s room to store all the gifts for a year.

I think you should ask for Monetary gifts [ Whatever is on there heart to give or anything little is okay too] on your wedding website or invite or just register things you will need for your new home. I didnt like the thought of asking for monetary gifts. But it's what most people need who haven't purchased there home yet. Who have to live in an apartment or with there parents. That can really help toward the goal.

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100000% this lol

If you can afford a storage unit, go ahead and register for things you know you will use one day. I host a lot of parties and received lots of beautiful china from our wedding last June. Due to a series of unexpected job and life transitions, we had to move in temporarily with my dad about 10 months after our wedding. As we prepare to move out again this weekend we are downsizing from our previous three bedroom rental house to a one bedroom apartment, so we are keeping many of our items in storage. We know that someday we will purchase a house once things get settled, so we are storing everything we don't need every day until we are ready to use it in a nice house!

I don't know your situation, but my husband finds it uncomfortable living with his in-laws even though my dad stays our of our way and gives us plenty of privacy. We've only been there a month, but it's hard living with in-laws as newlyweds. I'm sure you've considered the challenges of living with in-laws, I just wanted to give you the perspective of my husband. We love my dad and this temporary situation has benefited both parties, but we are very ready to move into our new apartment ASAP!

I would encourage you to register for small items that are useful no matter your location. If you are open to it, you may consider hosting a wishing well at your wedding or a honeyfund for your guests to contribute to experiences for you and your partner to share. However you choose to create your registry, the people who truly wish to celebrate your union will be happy to share what will give you the most joy. Happy planning!

Hi Yasmin! I would focus on things pertaining to your bedroom since those items will be more personalized. For instance, I would look into sheets, picture frames, and other bedroom essentials. Also, if your in-laws have the space and will permit you to do this, I would look into kitchen essentials like pots and pans, a Keurig, toaster, etc.

You should definitely check our Wedding Registry Guide to get a better idea of how to go about your registry!

Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Exactly ..i want my own home and if we couldn't afford to have our own home then we can't afford to have a wedding that's just me .

View Quoted Comment Wouldn’t that be amazing!!!

im just curious where you live?

I understand that it’s not ideal BUT... I’m also a stepmom to my fiancé’s son and I drive every morning and night before 6am and after 11pm to help with lunches, drop offs, and many other motherly tasks. It may not be the “right” time tompeople who seek to follow the “norm” but it works for us and our family. Therefore all I was seeking was positive encouragement/ support and helpful tips.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing so so helpful!!!

View Quoted Comment Brilliant!!!! My mother in law has a garage and said we can put all of our belongings and gifts there.

you are amazing thanks!

View Quoted Comment This is pure perfection! After all this advice we spoke to my in law and she is all for it! We are very excited to start registering.

Thank you!

View Quoted Comment True!!!! I only have my mother in law who’s amazing so it makes it easier but yes CASH!