Moving in together???

Is this a bad idea?

You should absolutely talk about your living arrangements ASAP to make sure you are on the same page. If you are currently living separately, you need to be in agreement of whether you are moving into one or the other's apartment/house/condo/etc or getting a new place. These kinds of big discussions, along with how you will share finances, how many/if any children you want, etc. I would honestly suggest that these discussions be had before you get married to ensure that your overall vision of your future is compatible.

I would definitely have the conversation now. I would find it pretty odd to not live together while married. Is that month really going to make or break your savings?

This is definitely a conversation thats entirely between you and your future spouse. Its not weird if you both decide that its best for you financially, but do you really want to spend the first month of marriage apart?

Do you both live with your parents or roommates? If one of you live alone could you move into the other's space and then worry about looking for another place?

This ultimately needs to be decided by both of you and people from the outside can only give so much advice if we dont know what your spouse's opinion on the issue is.

Also, if this isnt a new wild hare kind of idea, you guys really need to sit down together and talk through the important issues that you may run into before you get married to make sure you're on the same page. My partner and I did a workbook we found on amazon, your officiant may have a pre-marital counseling course as well.

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That idea of a workbook sounds really useful if people are not considering a counsellor.

For making plans about moving ... that does not usually need to be considered so quickly as long as you both already have a place suitable for both of you. It still is okay to look into options. There may be a few oddities in the application process while you are changing from single to married status.

Hi all. So, here is an update.. we got married 05/22/22. All is going just fine. We have moments where, things are interesting.. but overall it’s a pretty nice experience. We ended up moving late June.