Move the Wedding date up???

Hey don't stress we moved up our date due to the venue we wanted. Our wedding is 176 days away a lil less then 6 months. our original date was 5/22/10. The important thing is making sure when your dress will arrive, yous still have enough time for the std's. Plus, you will know that your fbil will be able to attend!!!!

So, breath, you will be okay. We are a good bunch to ask for help.

I just found out we lose the venue (ceremony and reception) by moving our wedding up.

Number 1 and 2 I think are workable if you wanted to move it up. Save the dates are not required so don't stress over that. If people want to be there, they will weather they have 8, 6 or 1 months notice.

Number 3 is the kicker. See how much it would be and maybe ask FMIL if she is willling to help with the cost of getting it earlier.

Now number 4 is the biggie. How stuck are you on the venue? You still have plenty of time to find another one if you are not in love with the one you have. The venue has no other earlier dates???? Maybe on a Friday or Sunday????

Jax already said what i was going to:if fmil wants to move it up(and i agree, the reason is a good one, and warranted, IMHO), so maybe she could help out a little? maybe with the rush fee? on your venue, have you put down a deposit? and i can't believe you lose it if you move it up! you can't ask if theres a date that will work for them? most places, you lose it if you cancel or delay, not move up...good thing the caterer is a friend, so that makes catering flexible, it appears...we're considering moving up our date also, b/c apparently fh doesn't want to wait that long! we were doing NYEve, but my BM is having a party that night, and we really want to be there lol.....so i'm thinking of moving it up to february 6, rather than march 20...but i already have my dress, and the stuff to do my invites so that's not going to be an issue for us...hopefully it all works out...

When you book this venue for a wedding you get it for 2 days prior to the event for setup and the day after for clean up so Friday/Sunday isn't an option. The only available weekend in May is the weekend the brother gets deployed and he won't be available in April. It just sucks because I feel like I'm back to square one.

How long will FBIL be deployed? Could you do it when he comes back (unless he'll be gone like a year or something) Are you willing to look at other venues? Unfortunately sometimes you just can't accomodate everyone's schedule. It's a shame if your FBIL can't be there but it sounds like you are really trying. At any rate I agree with pp who said that FMIL should pay the difference in whatever new costs you incur as a result of changing your date.

It's a lengthy deployment. No details on return time.

Hun I don't know what to tell you. It really does hurt to have to change you wedding date. I understand how you feel; because of family we can to move out date from March 20, 2010 to January 16, 2010. We already sent out our save the date cards. Believe me we feel you. If you are able to move the date up and find a venue that you can get and it cost more or you lost your deposit then your future family should help pay for that. At any rate good luck.

I'm not worried about changing the wedding date. I'm all for marrying the love of my life sooner rather than later. I just really love the venue and don't want to lose it and all of this came up so suddenly. My fiance is currently out of the country so this really is a lot for me to take in and think about while he is away. I guess we'll see when he returns.

Save-the-date cards, invitations, envelopes, and place cards:

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No rush, move the date up You want things to go smoothly...

Well.....what about march? lol i know that's REALLY moving it up....but still, maybe there's a day then?! would you be able to pull everything off? wow, that's crazy for this to be thrown at you while he's gone...has FMIL even brought this to the table with FH?

I know you don't want to move your location..but i just realized you are in austin...your venue looks reminiscent of this place my guy BFF used to work at...balcony springs?! it's actually up off 1431, towards marble falls...it used to be this rustic summer camp place, turned conference center, and now, it's this FANTASTIC gorgeous place here's the link, JIC you decide to look for another venue...another thing, have you tried the Back40 out in fredricksburg? it's outdoorsy, and looks really pretty too, like TOR, and CBS...here's BS's link

http://www.texasretreat.com/weddings.php the back 40 doesn't have a link for weddings on their site, but i know they hold them there, a couple i went to HS with got married there after we graduated...

http://www.back40-fredericksburg.com/

1) you can plan a wedding in 4-5 months. just be disciplined. make decisions fast

2) don't be too picky

3) you might not have to pay a rush fee....ask what the wedding shop can do for you. can they waive the fee if you get a veil there or some accessories? they told me i had to pay a rush fee too. i would not have it. the dress was in stock and it came in!

4) i would do it, just because i'm not a savor the wedding planning kind of a girl. i just wanted to be married tastefully and romantically and that was it.

5) i bought my bm dresses online ready to wear and it was cheap, high quality, and beautiful!!!

Ask yourself how important the venue, etc is versus this guest attending. Then, check and see if your ceremony and reception venues are even available at an earlier date. And, check with work, too. Once you've done all of that make a decision. I can't imagine rearranging everything for one person! We already know of a couple people who won't be able to make it that are very dear to us, but it's just not an option to rearrange everything.

Thanks for your thoughts and suggestions. Things are still up in the air. We really can't move the date up before May b/c thanks to the military the brother will probably only get leave for 2 weeks or a month so moving it even earlier would be pointless effort.

The FH and I have discussed that May 8th is the only day we can do but this does risk one of the groomsmen (maybe 2) not being able to attend but we could keep our current venue (which we are VERY attached to).

It's just all very frustrating but a little easier now that FH is here. It was a lot to take in while he was out of the country!

I'll let you know how things go!

Now he can help you cat i guess for me, if my brother was getting deployed, i'd probably try to make it where he can be there...but that's b/c i have enough friends in the military who've lost friends, to kind of know we might not be getting together again...(i'm sorry i know no one wants to think of that).....

Yeah, and it doesn't make it easier knowing that moving it up would causes conflicts for both my brother and sister not being able to attend (weekend of May 15 and 22). We are doing our best to narrow things down to the best option. So far, May 8th might be a winner and June 5th is a possibility and we could just hope and pray for the best from here on out.