Move the date for fiance's sister who is Ttc?

I understand your concerns about moving a date accommodate something that may or may not happen around a specific date. I don't think it's really a fair ask on her part. I would have your FH take the lead on this, have him talk to his sister once she's on board they can talk to his parents. If they won't come around then you and your FH have a decision to make you can move the date, you can he location so she wouldn't have to travel so far, or you can stick to your plan and hope comes around (which is what I would be inclined to do)

Well if she gets pregnant this month she’ll be due right around your wedding. So I’d say unless she does get pregnant immediately, I wouldn’t change it.

Personally I feel it's not the right call to postpone the wedding under the circumstances. It's a sensitive topic when someone is ttc, but she might be ttc for a while... and you can't keep indefinitely postponing on those grounds. When someone is ttc it can make sense that a lot of their future is shaped around it, so of course she's focused on that aspect... but I don't feel it's a the right call to postpone. Find a way to reassure her, say you love and support her, and brainstorm safe travel plans so she knows you're on her team, but don't change your timeline.

I would not postpone for something that doesn't have a definite date. She could get pregnant immediately or it could take years, she could have the baby on the due date, before the due date, or after the due date. There's too many variables here. This may sound selfish, but she's just as capable of holding off TTC for 2-3 months so that she can safely fly in January, as you guys are of pushing your date back.

I personally wouldn’t change the date if she isn’t pregnant by July.

I dont think its the right call to postpone the wedding. If she does not get pregnant right away she will probably ask you to postpone again. You should have your fh talk to his sister and parents and talk and explain you cant postpone

I wouldn't change the date. Unless she is pregnant and has an approximate date that is unfair of her to ask. This may be sensitive for all involved but dont change your date.

I think it is different in trying to get pregnant and being pregnant. If they are trying and nothing happens, then they will keep trying and you will never get married? I have been in weddings where there is a pregnant bridesmaid and for mine, my cousin currently pregnant, but will be having the baby before then.

Maybe wait it out for a month. Realistically, unless she got pregnant right now, it wouldn't be an issue most likely. Could you wait a month and then decide? Then you could point out that it won't be an issue. If they are really concerned about her being pregnant and not making it, theoretically they could postpone ttc... I would never ask them to, but that is another way of thinking about it. You go ahead with the wedding, maybe wait a few weeks to know if they have successfully conceived and then go from there.

I agree with your perspective. It would be great if she can make it but I would not plan my wedding date on when a family member is hoping to be pregnant. There are too many unknowns and if she has been trying for a while and has not concived yet I would think she can’t be sure she’ll be too pregnant to travel for a certain date. Life happens, we’re having multiple close friends and family members not attend because they’re all having babies within a week of our September wedding! All you can do is say we’ll be absolutely thrilled when you conceive and don’t expect you to plan around our wedding, however we would prefer to plan around the time that works for us in the current situation.

I wouldn't postpone my wedding. I agree that it's not very fair to ask this.

She is not pregnant now. It may take 2 months or 4.5 years to get pregnant. Even planned insemination can take 3-5 tries. It is absolutely outrageous to ask you to put your life on hold til she conceives and has a tentative birth date. Your family is being ridiculous. Surely there must be one of them that did not conceive in 1-2 months, who realizes what they are asking. People miss weddings simply because they have a bad cold, or twist an ankle. It is not the end of the world, if you set a date and she does conceive 8-12 months before. She could have the baby, only for it to have an inner ear infection, or lung issues, and not be able to fly for months and months. So, you keep putting it off? No. Set a date, the sooner the better.

I actually think it’s very rude of her to ask this of you. She is not pregnant, does not know if/when she will be; but you ARE getting married, and know exactly when you will be. I do not think you should change anything, and I think you should kindly explain that you’ve already made the plans and will deal with how to approach her attending the wedding if she is pregnant when that actually happens.

Do not change the date

I think how you have already replied was the right way. And should just stand as that. It's you and him that are meeting, it's the both of your day, I have yet to meet a couple meeting that change what is the most important day off one's life according to what others want. Me personally I'd of answered just as you 2 did and it's keep what my date was. Key word, your day! Good luck and best of wishes for the both of you. Keep your date planned and maybe she can adjust or have to change her plans according to what her brother wants for his day.

I also would not. TTC can be a lengthy process and if she has been trying for a while, it may be unlikely that she you could even move it to a time that would "work" better for her. Does she want you to move it up or push it back?

I can appreciate you wanting to be thoughtful about how you are binding the family but you also don't want to have significant resentment because you postponed the start of your life for a just in case situation. I would check with her privately to just make sure she is not currently pregnant and does not want to announce. That may be different.

I think you SIL is being ridiculous and that you absolutely should not move the wedding.

I'm sorry but what makes her life event take precedence over yours? I know people are saying not to move your wedding so it seems as though your life event is more important,, but a wedding comes with hefty costs. Trying to have a baby has no cost until you're actually pregnant and need doctor visits. But even so, the cost comparison is like non-existent. I would never move my wedding for something like that.