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Motherzilla of the bride

Sarah, on January 8, 2020 at 1:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

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So I am not a bridezilla, I have my own visions on how I want my wedding to be and where I want to shop at for my wedding stuff. My mom on the other hand is trying to control everything. I found a cute little wedding dress boutique that is fairly new (which is where I am going dress shopping at), my mom wants me to only go to David’s Bridal. I live in Las Vegas and I wanted to get married at one of the wedding chapels on the Las Vegas strip, my mom wants me to get married in a church (my fiancé is atheist, so we are having the wedding and reception at the same venue). My mom wants me to find a different photographer, because the one I found charges $500 for 8 hours and she did my engagement pictures so I know she is good, my mom said that is to much money. I also told her I am making my own flower bouquets, she told me to order bouquets from some place. I am so stressed out about wedding planning now. Plus since my wedding is around Thanksgiving we can’t have turkey for the dinner, we have to have chicken, I am the bride and I don’t like chicken. Any suggestions on what I can do?

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Latest activity by Suzie, on January 8, 2020 at 8:46 PM

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Don · on January 8, 2020 at 1:17 AM
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Hi Sarah,

I feel for you girl, you need to politely tell your mom, that it's YOUR wedding, and therefore, you make the decisions, my mom wasn't a problem about anything except my dress, she wanted me to go to David's also, I didn't of course, I had my ❤️ set on another dress which I ended up getting! And as the 👰 you should ask for whatever entree you want, they really should accommodate you!!! Good luck girl!!
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Hannah · on January 8, 2020 at 1:18 AM
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Can you politely tell her that while you appreciate her enthusiasm and interest in the wedding planning, you have your own vision of what you want? Is she paying for any of the wedding? Sometimes money comes with strings attached.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on January 8, 2020 at 1:39 AM
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No pay, no say. If she’s not paying for the wedding, you should stop sharing details with her. If she is contributing you should sit down and ask her for her requirements for her financial help. Try to tell her about your vision and see if she’s willing to compromise. If not, you can give her money back and have the wedding or elopement you truly want.
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Veronica · on January 8, 2020 at 7:55 AM
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Is she paying for the wedding or are you and your fiance? If you are paying for it and she isn't then she really doesn't get to make those decisions. If she is paying for your wedding then it is her money and she can decide how she wants to spend it. In the instance that you are paying for it, I would quit sharing details with her. If she asks you about something, I would just tell her you have handled it and leave it at that.
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Alycia · on January 8, 2020 at 9:43 AM
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I agree with the other posters. You need to be happy with your wedding. Its nice she's giving you alternatives and suggestions but she can't make you do anything.
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Sarah · on January 8, 2020 at 1:14 PM
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My fiancé and I are paying for most of the wedding, my fiancé’s parents helped with the down payment. They don’t really care what we do. My mom is paying for the honeymoon, she is not paying for anything for the wedding. I mean I see where she is coming from, since her parents and my step dads parents are stuck up snobs, so since they are traveling to come in for the wedding, my mom wants everything to be perfect.
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Danielle · on January 8, 2020 at 2:50 PM
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Plan your own wedding. Just you. It seems you've included someone who won't let you have it your way. Straight up unless she's paying for your wedding everything she comes up with is just an option. My mom did the same until I told her she "can't make me have the wedding you want, it's not fair to me." She was taken aback but nothing but support since from her.
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Sharon · on January 8, 2020 at 5:57 PM
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Umm, $500 for 8 hours of photography is amazing!! I wish I could get that deal. Also I was not impressed with David's Bridal and you should eat whatever you and your fiance want for dinner! Basically, this is just a comment to support your decisions! Good luck!
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Suzie · on January 8, 2020 at 8:46 PM
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I would limit the planning info you share with her from now on. If she is not paying for anything, she has no say. And why can’t you have turkey? Most of us eat it once a year, and I would love an opportunity to have it again! $500 for 8 hours is AMAZING. We’re paying $2,500 for 6 hours. When she oversteps, thank her for the input, but gently remind her this is your day and you have a vision already. I am not a fan of David’s myself - I think smaller shops have much better service and choices.
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