Mother/son dance

Ew I’m sorry! That sounds horrific lol. I’m with you on that!!

That’s a tough one, maybe it’s not that she wants to steal the show (but then again you know her better than i do!) but it is a big thing right before her sons life becomes a married one! Maybe request that she keeps it under a certain time frame to cut it down but still let her have it. If she’s trying to incorporate 6 songs hopefully it’s just 30or so seconds of each song, but maybe say something like “I think it’s great that you want to make this surprise, just for time sake I just want to make sure you can keep it under X minutes”? Good luck!

As a former DJ, we HATED the mix 4-6 songs, it then again we did it by CD not laptop/iPods.

I would just be honest and let her know you know and that you are okay with a toned down version, or that the time allotted for the dance is 4 minutes, so however they do it they do it. As long as DJ is okay with it, if not tell her that they aren’t cool with doing that.

How do you think FH feels/will feel? If he won’t be happy about it, try and nip it now. Just be cautious of wording as not to become the “Bad Guy”.

I am sorry you’re going thru this, and I have a feeling that I will be going thru FH mom or “darling” 22yo daughter try and pull the “steal the show” because it can’t be a day about ME, and FH, god forbid!

Best of luck- let us know how it goes!

I agree with Christina. If it were my FMIL, I would definitely feel like she was trying to steal the show (just knowing how she is). I love her to death but we kicked off our engagement with her asking me about the dress she wanted to wear to the wedding which was practically a wedding dress This whole surprise dance montage would not fly for me lol

I think the #1 concern about this is how FH feels about it. If he's in, you need to take that into consideration. If he's not comfortable with doing it at all and/or thinks it's too long/too much, he needs to tell her that and insist she match what he wants. If he knows how you feel and still thinks it's a great idea, then I think you need to just smile in amusement (and act VERY surprised, so guests are fully aware you weren't involved). But, if he's going along with her because he's unaware of how you feel about it, the two of you need to talk and come to a mutual decision that he then relays/enforces with his mom, the DJ, whomever. I've been married 32+ years -- while we love and appreciate each other's family completely, we each take care of the major communication with our own family & it makes things a lot easier. Good luck!

Omg I would be mortified. Talk to your FH and see how he feels. If he's into it, you guys can work it out.

Yup!!! Hell no!!!!

Wow. that is not good. I can understand wanting to do something special with her son, as I would love to do this with my son whenever he gets married, but I would want the bride's buy-in and support. I don't think it is right that she is "hiding" this. have you talked to your FH about this? Is he aware of is and going along with it?

I think that is where you might want to start, see what he thinks and then go from there.

Good Luck !!

I think that's really rude of them. Definitely talk to your FH about your concerns! You aren't overreacting

Hell to the no. If it were me, I'd ask my fiance if that's something he's actually looking forward to/wanting. If he could care less, then I'd let my FMIL know that it won't be happening. I get the idea of it and wanting to throw a little bit of silliness into a wedding but honestly just no. You want the least amount of unplanned-for things to happen on your wedding day, and a 6 minute future family in law flashmob is up there on that list. Yikes.

This is your groom's wedding too. Anything he wants to plan with his mom, is fine. MYOB. If your FI does not like or want to follow her suggestions, it is up to him to talk with her. Stay out of it. Don't worry about other people or what they think. They are guests, spectators. The content of the wedding is up to the bride and groom. Do not step on what FI has agreed to do.

Is it going to last a full 6 songs? or will the mashup still be about 3-4 minutes long? Absolutely not if it's full songs....guests will get bored.

If its a 5 minute thing i'd just let her go. if FH isn't embarassed about it then its fine! Yes the wedding day is about you and FH, but his mother is a very important part in his life. If this is all she's asking for, i'd let her go.