Mothers!!

Ignore it and do what you want. Mom's will always have an opinion. Don't let it stress you. If it becomes too much then nicely talk to her and say mommy thanks for the suggestion but I prefer to do things like this. Maybe also limit asking her questions if she will handle things this way. So sorry for the stress.

My momma is full of questions about the wedding and usually hates whatever answer I give her lol. I just tell her since my FH and I are the ones paying for whole thing we get to do what we want.

This was a constant struggle for the time I was home for Christmas! I've basically told my mom that there are some things that are important and she can give input on and but I get the final say. And then there are things that I care less about that I've given her more of a say. I feel like that has helped balance things out so has things that she feels like she has control over. I've also tried to get her really excited about things I really want to do so she gets more on board with it and that helps too. All in all there is no easy mother solution lol.

Haha when I had started making real plans and paying deposits, everyone wanted to give me opinions... and this was after I begged for input before making any decisions. My parents told me I was spending too much money (my FH and I are paying for most of it), getting married in the wrong city, and my food choices were unacceptable. I had a talk with them and said that this was MY wedding and I wasn't going to argue with them over what I decided on. I'm paying for it and I can't please everyone so I'm just doing my best to please myself. They backed way off. Maybe give her one minor thing to plan (venue rentals?) and be clear that this is all she's going to take the lead on. She'll feel included but also figure out her place.

My parents are helping us pay for the wedding, so to a point I have to let my mom have some say but some things started to bug me. My mom hired an officiant without consulting myself or my FH that was the biggest thing. But I just had to put my foot down about some things and not let her completely take over. I did listen to her opinion in regards to the venue and food because that is what they are helping us with; the rest my FH and I are paying for.

I have had this over and over with weirdly phrased questions from my FMIL and I know she means well but I’m just thinking I got this! Please stop asking questions and giving me your opinion. She’s high maintenance and like NEEDS to help whereas me and my mom are like anti-maintenance and just whatever works and is cheapest and easiest is fine with us so it’s been a little hard to field her comments/questions, but you just have to be honest with her and don’t lead her on.
In reality I just tell her straight up that “yes thanks for the idea. Me and my FH/friend/mom/planner have been working on/thinking about that and have planned it a little different/similar.” Or “we haven’t thought of that, we will talk about it and see.” Or “this is an interesting point but we don’t have that in our budget and want to keep our focus on ______.” Or “thanks for your input but I’ve already done ______.”

My mom was on a kick about what she was wearing before I picked out my dress or bridesmaid dresses... like obsessive level. It finally think I just ended up yelling at her and told her that until I picked out a wedding dress, she should plan on wearing a-less chaps.
That kinda got her to pull back.