Mother problems.

My mother and I have a similar relationship . I think you need to sit down and have an honest conversation

I would try and sit down with her and express your feelings honestly. This day is about you and him not her.

I've tried to have multiple conversations with her calmly. She always gets defensive and starts yelling. She also put a rift between me and my sister to try to prove a point. I dont understand how cruel someone can be to their own daughter. She has also told me she does not want to be apart of my wedding. I've continuously tried really hard with her.

View Quoted Comment I've tried to sit down and talk with her. She's been treating me like this for decades now. The only pictures I have with her shes always yelling and mugging at me. She'd do little things like not go to my graduation but go to all my siblings graduations. Or not go to my parent teacher conferences. It's deep and I've expressed to her throughout the years thats how I feel. Yesterday wasnt the first time she heard it from me.

View Quoted Comment I dont mean to pry but does this get any better? When I have kids I'm afraid she'll treat them unfairly because 1) they are my kids and 2) they will be half black. I'm not trying to exile my mom thats still my mom. But she never owns up to any of this. She has never said I love you or ever hugged me. No matter how much I initiate it. But she treats my siblings completely different as if they are god sent. She even created unneccessary drama between my siblings and I and made them pick a side so now no one wants to be in my wedding. My mom is good at hurting me.

You can't change her. It doesn't get better. I have a couple of family members who were never loving in the way you want. You can't change that, only to learn to deal with it or distance yourself. I'd start by moving out. You may all get along better not being under the same roof..

My mom 80-90% of the time annoys the heck out of me. So on my wedding day she still annoyed me. MAKE MINIMAL CONTACT WITH HER. I actually was so busy wedding day and you would be too, that you likely won't even interact with her as much as you think. But on my wedding day I maybe interacted with her like two times

View Quoted Comment She sounds really toxic. Personally, I would give her a time out until she tries to treat you better. You don't have to have her in your life if she's emotionally abusive. She will do the same thing to your future children. When you are a mother it will be your job to protect them from that.

Give her 1 more chance, the wedding. If she can't be civil and acts crazy, then put her in time out for 3 months. After that invite her to lunch or coffee. If she's still mean again put her in time out for 6 months. Take that time and space for yourself! You deserve a healthy relationship. If she hurts you then she doesn't deserve you in her life. If you have to exile her for your sanity, than exile her. Give her a few time outs and if she doesn't respect your boundaries you may have to cut her out permanently.

I am so sorry! I have gone years without speaking to my mom because she is unstable and abusive. I absolutely will not let her treat me like that. Don't give your mother the chance to hurt you anymore.

About the wedding day, leave that up to her. If she wants to come she will come.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your advice. I just needed someone to reassure me that I wasn't overreacting. I shouldn't feel guilty about being happy and starting my life. Thank you so much.

View Quoted Comment It sadly doesn’t. She has tried to parent my son and will over reach her boundary when I am giving him a direction