Mother of the groom matching BM

Match as in the same dress or same color dress? I have seen the MOB and MOG wear same color as bridesmaids but not the same dress. And i have only seen this a few times

Not that I know of . Is that what she wants to do? Our moms wore whatever dress and color they chose and felt fabulous in. They did not match the bridesmaids. I would think they would want to stand apart from them.

I think wearing the same exact dress as the bridesmaids would come off weird if she isn't a "bridesmaid". My cousin got married recently and her mother was her MOH so that's different. But my mother is wearing a different shade of blue and completely different style dress than my bridesmaids. (bridemaids dresses are cobalt blue). I think she chose the same color family so that it will look good in pictures.

I requested no black bc BM wearing slightly above knee length black and she got dark grey black undertones short dress and just asked me if she needs to get blue shoes like my BM :/

I never heard of this and i dont want her matching them .... FH says its tradition but I think he just saying it as excuse ....

Well unfortunately you really can't tell a grown adult what they can and cant wear. So just let her wear it. But I would tell her she doesn't need blue shoes

I think it would be fine if it weren't for the shoes. Can you ask that she not get blue shoes? I have never heard of that tradition.... sounds like an excuse. At the end of the day though, I don't think it really matters since black knee length dresses are so universal. There will probably be guests that wear that too.

No one will be looking at her feet. No one will be thinking she's a BM. No one will care. Let it go.

You can't tell her what to wear. So it's irrelevant. She wants to wear a blackish dress and blue shoes? She can. I not aware that it was ever a tradition though, maybe in some areas?

We did not comment on our mothers wedding attire, I haven't heard of that tradition but it could very well be common in your FH's family. My MIL did wear the same color as the bridesmaids, and a similar style. Her shoes were a different color. I don't think she sought out the same color on purpose, but that was the dress she fell in love with. We're just happy she was happy.

Let her wear whatever she wants.

I have heard of the MOG and MOB wearing wedding colors but my bridesmaids are wearing one of each of our colors so when asked, I told them whatever they were comfortable in.

@busybusybride, nice response. Hopefully she'll find something she likes and it won't be that color! If you don't want to have her stand by the bridesmaids, you could include her in the ceremony with a reading or something, and say it will flow better if she sits.

MOG wore a different shade of blue from the bridesmaids (happened to be a wedding color, but I don't know if that was on purpose!) and MOB wore gold, which was also a wedding color and I helped her pick it out because it's gorgeous and she looked phenomenal, but I didn't dictate what style or color for either of them. None of the weddings I've been to have the mothers matched the bridal party on purpose.

Let her wear whatever she wants. Nobody will confuse her for a bridesmaid