Mother of the Groom dress problem, advice please

If it's really bothering her, she should talk to FH about it and have him say something. That way it doesn't cause issues between her and FMIL.

Her FH can talk with his mom if he feels comfortable. But honestly she doesn't really get to dictate what color she wears. Black isn't a terrible choice. I've several chic black dresses. You certainly should stay out of it.

This is a non issue. She doesn’t get to dictate what the groom’s mother wears, and neither do you

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Thanks Emilie - when she mentioned it to her FHm he just laughed and said he didn't expect much better from his mom.

My dad always told me to pick your battles. This one doesn't seem worth fighting since it's most important that her FMIL feel good in what's she's wearing.

Your daughter shouldn't have told any of the parents what to wear. If she's unhappy with the way colors look 8n pictures she can print them in black and white

Your daughter doesn't get to choose her FMILs outfit. She wears whatever she wants to. Black is a great colour that suits a lot of people, I can see why she chose it. Really not seeing this as something to be upset about, why is it okay for the men to wear black to a wedding but not her

Hello. I'm so sorry that you are experiencing the same thing I had gone through. My MFIL did the exact same thing.

I was so stressed until I got really ill and was sick for a week due to stress. I'm getting married on a beach with Turquoise and Hot Pink for colors. She asked me and I told her what to wear. She called to tell me she got a "Plum Dress" instead. Ugggh. The BMs are wearing Turquoise so she took the plum dress back and now wearing blue like the bridesmaids😞.

I told my FH that I give up. Let her wear what she wants as she will not be in a lot of pics. FH was going to address it but I'm done.

I hope everything works out and I'm sorry that you all are experiencing this too.

Good luck!

It's really not the bride's place to tell the parents what to wear. It is not common for the parents to be in pictures with the rest of the wedding party so it doesn't really matter. But more than anything, this is definitely not something you should get involved with. This is between your daughter and her new husband and his family. If she feels something must be said then she should have her FH talk to his mom. But if I were you, I would advise your daughter to let this go. Black is a very common color to wear to weddings and is very flattering on most people.

Have a heart to heart with your daughter and explain to her that this is not a problem. She never should have told you what color to wear anyway, especially just for pictures. You've lived presumably for a while longer than her and I would guess you know what kind of problems may be encountered in life and how a wedding affects you in the grand scheme. I would be more concerned about making sure my daughter did not ruin her future relationship with her mother in law over the color of a dress.

It is not your daughter's place to be telling FMIL what color to wear so her pictures are "balanced". This woman is a person not a photo prop. This would have gone very poorly if one of my girls had pulled that on me, let alone their FMILs. FMIL is not the one in the wrong here.