Mother of the Groom dance, Required?

Would they be willing to set differences aside and maybe split the dance with him?

Mother son dance is a fairly new tradition and totally ok to skip. Father daughter is a classic. Don't take that away from yourself or your dad.

I've spoken to both about pulling it together. But all i hear is nonsense about the past from them. I think i will just cut that out and dance with my dad. Thank you!

Why doesn't he do a dance with each of them?

@MrsBdeG i suggested that to him. But they are petty enough to be upset over which he dances with first.

We are doing a father/daughter dance and no mother/son dance because FH does not want to do it as he doesn't really like his mother. So it's totally okay to skip it. Or see if they can both do the dance. Either split the song or pick two different songs and just not play the whole song?

Oh good gosh - they are worrying about who goes first in the dance? Think I have heard it all......dance with your dad and skip the mother/son dance. Let them stew about it - they are acting like seven year olds. As someone who works in a K-6 school, I speak from experience. If your future hubby is willing to let the dance go, this is your best "non stressing me out where is the Valium when I need it" situation.

I am always shocked when I hear stories like this. It's such a major waste of time and energy, and incredibly selfish for his birth mother and step mother to be causing any kind of grief about this and putting your FH (and you) in an uncomfortable position. They are both going to end up missing out on a special moment. They don't have to like each other, but should behave like mature adults.

I'm sorry you and your FH even have to think about such a thing. Dance with your dad and enjoy every minute.

You can still dance with your dad, whether he dances with his mom's or not. Secondly he could dance with both of them. If they are being petty enough to fight over who goes first, then I would flip a coin in front of them and call it quits at that.

If he doesn't want to do the dance at all then he shouldn't. It sounds like they'll both be upset, with any decision that is made. The fairest decision if he does do the dance is what Lissia said, flip the coin. You could even video tape it, and send it to both so they can see it was fair.

(I'm glad I read all the way through this, I almost gave bad advice, whoops!)

I think in your situation, skipping the mother/son dance is fine. Feel free to have a father/daughter one if you want. Good luck!

I want to amend my answer: I am with @robyn. I would like to include perhaps they arm wrestle as well? Or have new hubby do the "Eenie meenie miney moe" song - you know, like they do in school when you are seven?