Mother of the bride

Its your wedding, so your rules. I would stress the importance of the honor she has to escort you to the rest of your life and that you choose to have that happen with a certain style. Memories last a lifetime and that you would hate to have that day tainted with her inconsiderate behavior. Your wedding day is about you and your groom not her civil disobedience.

View Quoted Comment True. I just think it will look tacky walking your daughter down the aisle in dress pants and a blouse

You should let her wear whatever she’s comfortable in. Maybe suggest a nice jumpsuit?

View Quoted Comment Tried that. Can’t find anything she likes

Grey dress pants and a Tiffany blouse?

Oh this is a hard one. It sounds like your mom is being stubborn and a bit selfish. My mom is a jeans and t-shirt type too, but we found her a dress that flatters her and she feels comfortable in (it's a really simple Calvin Klein jersey dress that hits right below her knee, not at all a typical blingy MOB gown). I do think people should feel comfortable but I also think its really important for people in your wedding to respect your wishes for your big day and be willing to compromise a little bit in order to honor you. Forcing someone to wear something they hate isn't great, because they'll feel uncomfortable all night and it will show in their body language and expression. However I don't think it's appropriate for your mom wear dress pants and a blouse if you are having a formal wedding, especially if she's walking you down the aisle. Wanting a person to wear attire that fits with the dress code/style of your event is reasonable, particularly if they have any role in the procession or ceremony.

I think your mom needs to consider how her style of dress impacts you, and also others as well.(Disclaimer: What comes next is super heteronormative in assumption and definitely does not apply to all couples or families, but I'm just trying to provide the example as food for thought, since you didn't specify anything about your partner or their family.) It is a courtesy for the Mother of the Groom to defer to the Mother of the Bride in terms of attire, and the MOG is considered rude if she overdresses or outshines the MOB. Generally the mothers of the couple getting married try to more or less have a similar level of dress, and if one shines above the other, its supposed to be the MOB who is a little bit "extra". If your mom wears a blouse and dress pants, that puts your FMIL in a very difficult position choosing her own attire and I don't think that's fair to her. Chances are you and your partner don't really care about that and are fine with your FMIL wearing a dress or gown if she chooses to, but etiquette and traditions are really important to some, and there is no telling how guests or others might perceive the situation.

Would your mom consider wearing something more formal for the ceremony and then having the option to change into a blouse and dress pants for the reception? It might be a good compromise, where you find something she feels more comfortable in to wear for the majority of the evening, but she bites the bullet and dresses up a bit for walking you down the aisle and formal photos right before or after.

View Quoted Comment My fmil is Russian she’s all about looking a little glam her only son is getting married. It’s getting to be a pain

View Quoted Comment Been trying to find one

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Aww sorry you are going through this. I feel really lucky that my mom and my FMIL are both pretty low key and have similar styles and comfort levels.

I can understand not feeling comfortable in dresses if you never wear one, but I'm not sure I get the apprehension to a women's suit and it feels like a really good middle-ground option and compromise. I'd definitely suggest discussing with her the option of two looks and see if you can get her to go a little more formal for the ceremony and then she can be a little less done up for the reception.

Also if you are wearing blush I would think something in the blush, champagne, dusty rose color family could work if you cannot find an appropriate garment that is Tiffany blue color. I'd also suggest searching for the term turquoise vs Tiffany blue because I think light turquoise would probably be a more common descriptor than Tiffany for blouses, suits, dresses, and the like. Good luck!

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