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Sam
Just Said Yes August 2020

Mother of the bride

Sam, on June 11, 2020 at 1:44 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 1 23
Did you help pick out your futer mother-in-laws dress or did you just let her choose?

23 Comments

Latest activity by Samantha, on June 15, 2020 at 11:54 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I let mine choose! i didn't really want to bother with picking something out for her

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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    My mother, stepmother and mil all picked their own dresses. I wanted them to be happy and comfortable.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I let her choose! We didn’t make requests for any of the parents attire.
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  • Meaghan
    Savvy July 2022
    Meaghan ·
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    LMAO - this has been a HUGE issue for me for 20 plus years - from my first marriage. It so funny to see this because I am a living cautionary tale. YES help your MIL pick out a dress if at all possible. I wish I did. My ex-MIL was/still is a good person but has no social grace. She asked what color my mom was wearing and I told her, dark green. Figuring she asked so she wouldn't get the same color. She bought the exact same color as my mom - she thought they were supposed to match. Its STILL a thing for my mom. Its been 20 years and we are now divorced. My DF and I are in our 50s, planning a small second wedding and my mother is like - well at least Mark's mom won't wear the same dress as me (his mom passed away many years before we even met!). So in sum - talk to her about color/style/length. Talk to your own mom. Have the two of them talk. Make sure MIL does not accidently or purposely step on your mom. Good luck and enjoy the planning.

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I let everyone involved choose their own clothing.

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  • V
    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I let her choose. I wanted her to be comfortable and happy in the dress she wore. The mother of the bride doesn't need to match the bridal party. She just has to pick a dress that matches the level of formality for your wedding.
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Everything in me in screaming to, not choose one for her exactly, but help pick out different options. I completely understand why FMIL wears what she wears (because of her body shape) so obviously I want her to still look and feel comfortable. She has this long t-shirt dress looking thing that's like her go to outfit but I just really want to at least try and avoid it for our wedding day.

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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
    Renee ·
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    My MIL asked me the details of the wedding. I told her what my mom was thinking about wearing, color and style, and I let her go from there.
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'll give both mothers guidelines, but not tell them specifically what to wear. And then I'll ask for final approval.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    My mom and MIL chose their own dresses.

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  • Sam
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Sam ·
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    So my FMIL I had asked if we could all go together. She told me it's not her thing so I said okay then like I have some colors I was thinking for y'all. She went ahead and ordered her dress. Didnt tell me and won't show me or explain what she got and I am super picky and I don't care to much on the style I just want to actually have a say and not just her wearing what ever she wants


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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    We let ours choose

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    She’s an adult, she chose her own dress.
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    I generally let my parents dress themselves Smiley smile

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  • MD
    Super July 2019
    MD ·
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    I let both moms choose whatever they wanted, but they both ended up sending me tons of pics when they were shopping to make sure I was okay with what they chose. They knew the wedding colors so they had an idea of what colors to pick/not pick.

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  • Chelsea G
    Devoted June 2021
    Chelsea G ·
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    I am letting both my mother and future MIL choose what dress/outfit they plan on wearing. I don’t feel it’s that necessary to coordinate their outfits. Im having my dads tie match my mother's dress but that’s about it.
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Letting both the MOB and the MOG choose but my mom did ask me for opinions on some dresses she liked (just like she would for any other type of clothing) so I did help in that sense.
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    Super February 2020
    Andrea ·
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    I just told them what color to go with, and both mom and MIL would send me photos when they were shopping. But, I left it up to them to choose one that they felt comfortable in.
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  • Queen Cone
    Devoted September 2020
    Queen Cone ·
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    I will give u a big tip on this one. i let my mother in law choose thinking she would be responsible and show me what she was thinking of getting but instead she got a dress the same color as my moms and the same style as my dress. i kindly asked her to return it and get something else being that she bought it off the rack for $26 and she said no.
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    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Both of our mothers are adults who have been dressing themselves just fine since before we were born. They knew the formality, evening formal but neither black tie or white tie, and chose their own. As it happens they each independently chose blue outfits, and looked great.
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