Mother of the Bride Going Rogue

If the invitations have already gone out, there really isn't anything you can do. I would however explain to her again that the wedding guest list is final. However, anyone that is in a relationship should be given a plus 1 automatically so hopefully that has been factored into the wedding guest list.

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Thank you, Sherry. I have a really big family and we decided on giving plus ones only to those who are engaged or married (which is the norm in my family, people expect that). She gave plus ones to everyone else.

I would let your mom clean up the mess then since she is creating it. Send out your wedding invitations as is and if people assume they can bring their plus one since they brought them to the shower, have your mom deal with it which takes the blame and onus off of you

Oh man! I have to agree with Neeva. Your mom is creating confusion that shouldn't have been there in the first place. If she insists, then let her host the party how she wants, but let it be known that she gets to coddle feelings when guests realize they don't get to bring a friend to the wedding.

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Oh boy. Sounds like she has some phone calls to make and people to disappoint lol

Sorry you have to deal with that! I am actually having a similar experience with my FMIL for my bridal shower. we got a list together and sent out all the invitations, we already figured out location and catering for that amount of people. She now wants me to invite another 20 people because she says it would be proper etiquette and kind of threw a fit. So we sent them out to them because she said they most likely won't even come, but if they do and we cant fit everyone at our current venue I told my FH that she will have to figure out and pay for a larger venue. If it becomes a bigger problem I would have her call everyone to tell them they can't bring plus ones or have her handle any issues that come up from it.

I would explain to her that she insists on the plus ones for the shower, that's fine but the guest list for the wedding is final and not all of the plus ones will be able to come to the wedding due to budget. I would like her see how expensive things are. That will help because as soon as the guest count starts going up, so do three bills at least! You are not required to extend plus ones to anyone. We extended plus ones to family, wedding party, and anyone who is helping with the wedding. That's it.