Mother of Groom

There's no real rule about this. Most couples do whatever they like, in terms of what their mothers wear. I've seen moms who coordinate, or match each other. I've also seen the two mothers wearing completely different styles/colors. There's no right answer.

I've also seen some moms feel very competitive with their counterparts, and deliberately wear something to antagonize--either the other mom, or the couple getting married. Recently I read a story here where a bride was upset because her mom was wearing a certain color, and the couple didn't want their moms to match, so the bride had told her FMIL she could pretty much wear anything she wanted, EXCEPT this one color (her mom's dress color). Well, the FMIL went right out and bought a dress in the one color they asked her NOT to get. Why? Just to be spiteful, I suspect.

So, no rules. You have to ask yourself, how important is it really? It's not going to ruin your day, so maybe you just let it go.

I've always heard that the mother of the bride chooses first, they wear different colors and don't match the bridal party. However, I've seen on here that's not always the case!

I dont think this matters. I considered asking them to wear the same color.

Maybe she thought she's supposed to match? Lol some people can misinterpret "coordinate with each other." I was actually thinking about MOB/MOG outfits yesterday and how much I'm supposed to guide selections. Then my fiance had the brilliant point that it shouldn't really matter much to us, because when it comes to photos of our wedding, the family photos are probably not the ones we're going to really save and look back on. So I told my mom she can try to coordinate with us if she wants to, but really she can choose whatever she likes

I always thought they were supposed to match with the wedding colors/wedding party for photos (and therefore could be wearing the same color?) That's actually what I'll be doing.

Mine will match but my fiance's mother knows my mother gets first pick and she does what my mother says 😂
Maybe she thought they were supposed to match?

I don’t think there’s really any hard rules about them wearing the same color but they should at least coordinate so they don’t completely clash. If it’s the same color, at least they don’t clash!

There aren't any hard and fast rules. Also, is it just the same color or the same exact dress? And depending on the color, is it like a neutral? I know when I went shopping with my mom and FMIL (separate shopping trips), like 95% of MOB/MOG dresses were navy. My mom actually ended up with a navy dress (FMIL in silver). I think the intention behind the action is more important to look at than the actual action. I could see it being out of spite, but I could just as easily see it as "this is the dress I really like, and whoops, it's the same color." Without knowing the dynamics, it's hard to tell.

I’m not really worried about it personally. I’ll go shopping with my mom & I’m sure my MIL will choose a dress she likes for herself to win.

This is pretty common I think. My FSIL went shopping with her mom and MIL at the same time and they both picked out gold dresses on purpose. Not the same but matching. (Colors were gold and burgundy). It all depends on the person and what the bride wants.

There's no rule. My mom and FMIL are wearing the same color.

I honestly don’t think either matters so long as they don’t get the same exact dress or wear white. My FMIL was asking me for my opinion and came dress shopping with us when we went bridesmaid dress shopping and my only criteria was not white. But in my case, my mother passed away when I was a child, so there was nobody else to compare to.

Is this really a problem? My mom and MIL talked about coordinating colors with each other but didnt end up doing it.

I don't really think it matters unless the mother of the bride wants to stand out and be unique.

I don't think there really is any rule on this! I am having my mom and FMIL wear the same color but it all depends on what you want!

This isn't a rule. I've been to weddings where the MOG & MOB wore the same color and to weddings where they didn't. That is a choice for them to make.