Sally
February 2020

Mother of groom question

Sally, on November 23, 2019 at 4:29 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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If we are throwing a shower for the bride is it necessary to go to another shower hosted by a cousin of the bride?

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  • Kristen
    VIP October 2020
    Kristen ·
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    No but could be nice support. Maybe not buy am additional gift.
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  • Yoice
    Rockstar March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    If you’re invited you should go as is perfect time to socialize with the other side of the family and is a nice gesture of you. No gift is necessary.
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  • M
    Expert September 2020
    Marcia ·
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    I think most people choose to only attend one but since you’re the mother of the groom, you would probably be expected to attend both. No need to bring another gift though
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Megan ·
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    You do not have to go. People have lives and busy schedules, and you're already generously throwing a shower for the bride. It's not necessary to attend another if you can't make it or don't want to attend for whatever reason.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I agree that you don't have to go. If you're unable to, it's fine Smiley smile

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  • Alejandra
    Expert November 2020
    Alejandra ·
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    If you’re the mother of the groom, I would definitely say it would be best if you did go. It’s up to you!
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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    Each guest generally only goes to one shower. Sometimes, if a person goes to one shower of people invited to the wedding, they may also be at work, sports group or club when the whole group not going has a party, but these are usually a collection of a few dollars toward refreshments and a gift or two. Not a regular larger shower gift.
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  • Sally
    February 2020
    Sally ·
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    The big problem is that it's a 4 hour drive for me to this shower... Definitely doable, but makes for a very long day ... and it's a week before Christmas
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2020
    Sarah ·
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    My FMIL is 3hrs away and she is coming to (the only) shower I am having but we cleared the dates with her first and made her part of the plans. I’d never expect her to plan one local to her but if she did, I definitely Wouldn’t expect her to drive down to the one here. Send your regrets and we’ll wishes! She should understand.
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  • Jennifer
    Super April 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I think since you are hosting one, it is not required for you to go, especially a week before Christmas! You're fine just throwing your shower!

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  • T.S.
    Dedicated September 2021
    T.S. ·
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    Wait. why are there two showers?

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  • Sally
    February 2020
    Sally ·
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    Two cities
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  • T.S.
    Dedicated September 2021
    T.S. ·
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    Ohhh okay. Well I think asking to travel for the second shower is a lot.
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