Mother of groom question

No but could be nice support. Maybe not buy am additional gift.

If you’re invited you should go as is perfect time to socialize with the other side of the family and is a nice gesture of you. No gift is necessary.

I think most people choose to only attend one but since you’re the mother of the groom, you would probably be expected to attend both. No need to bring another gift though

You do not have to go. People have lives and busy schedules, and you're already generously throwing a shower for the bride. It's not necessary to attend another if you can't make it or don't want to attend for whatever reason.

I agree that you don't have to go. If you're unable to, it's fine

If you’re the mother of the groom, I would definitely say it would be best if you did go. It’s up to you!

Each guest generally only goes to one shower. Sometimes, if a person goes to one shower of people invited to the wedding, they may also be at work, sports group or club when the whole group not going has a party, but these are usually a collection of a few dollars toward refreshments and a gift or two. Not a regular larger shower gift.

View Quoted Comment The big problem is that it's a 4 hour drive for me to this shower... Definitely doable, but makes for a very long day ... and it's a week before Christmas

View Quoted Comment My FMIL is 3hrs away and she is coming to (the only) shower I am having but we cleared the dates with her first and made her part of the plans. I’d never expect her to plan one local to her but if she did, I definitely Wouldn’t expect her to drive down to the one here. Send your regrets and we’ll wishes! She should understand.

I think since you are hosting one, it is not required for you to go, especially a week before Christmas! You're fine just throwing your shower!

Wait. why are there two showers?

View Quoted Comment Two cities

View Quoted Comment Ohhh okay. Well I think asking to travel for the second shower is a lot.