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Mother of Groom Issues

Mom, on November 29, 2024 at 6:49 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 5
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Until last week, I was super excited about my son's wedding. Now, I'm dreading it. It's a big wedding over 200 guests. However, I will be the only one from my son's side at the reception. My granddaughters are flower girls, my daughter is a bridesmaid, and her husband a groomsman. Last week, the bride told my daughter the flower girls must leave the venue before reception begins. Since we're two hours from home (and babysitters), my son in law (and possibly daughter) will need to drive them home. I'll be alone at this huge reception not knowing anyone. And I hate parties. Forums suggested daughter cancel the flowergirl plans, but the girls have been looking forward to it. Daughter seems to be taking this well. So now my only question is "how does a single mother of the groom gracefully get through a wedding reception where she feels very unwelcomed and oh so sorry for her son." I am not contributing to wedding reception financially, just engagement party and rehearsal dinner. I spoke with my son, he says the bride's family made the decision, and he has no say.

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Latest activity by Md RONJEET, on December 1, 2024 at 11:56 AM
  • Michael
    Master October 2023
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    You should be allowed a plus one without any objections. Are there any guests on your son's side? The people paying for the wedding should give equal invitations to the groom's type of guests. Is that happening? Maybe another option would be a babysitter who could watch over the daughters nearby.

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    Yes. The bride suggested a babysitter; unfortunately, the hotel is a 25-30 minute drive away. Not too many sitters can handle so many little ones-- let alone car seats and a drive on unfamiliar back roads in the dark. Her husband will probably need to be the sitter. Clearly not an even distribution of guests. Bride has a huge family. I have a small family. My family of origin either too frail to make the trip--or dead. Only guests of my son would be the plus ones of his groomsmen, and I don't know any of them. Most friends are shared with bride. Forgot about a possible plus one. Thanks so much for the idea!
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  • Michael
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    Can't they allow you to attend with someone who is just your friend? The other thing I hope they could do is to have guests directed to sit at both sides of the ceremony seating so the event looks balanced.

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    Michael, thank you for these responses. Much appreciated. I haven't been given details, so I'm assuming they are taking care of all invites and seating. I decided to keep my initial plans and give bride and groom two more checks: one for rehearsal dinner, another as a wedding gift. Would love to avoid the shower party, rehearsal dinner, the morning after breakfast, and exit the reception early--as soon as the cake is cut. But I don't know how insulting it could appear to the bride and her family. Assuming my absence wouldn't be a big deal, but what if I'm wrong. I don't want to place any more stress on my son.
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  • Michael
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    I hope your son is not feeling sorry of his own situation in this -- unless just for not having many guests on his side. The hope would be, at minimal, that he is acquiring additional family that will be encouraging to him.

    The main thing for you is to try to stay around as long as it is supportive of your son. You also can be honest while trying to participate. You can say you that parties are overwhelming for you but you are glad for the celebration -- or whatever you can share.

    Is his fiancée's family supportive of you? Are you able to establish cordiality with her family? Hopefully you find something comfortable for the long run.

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