My mother isn't showing any interest in being involved in my wedding planning. It is really starting to get to me as this is supposed to be a time when mothers and daughters bond. I continue to try to involve her by seeking advice, sharing our wedding details, send her pictures etc but she doesn't have any input. She didnt even react when I called her excited sharing my engagement. ( He even asked her permission) Then out of the blue she decided to insert herself in the wedding by texting me at 6am that she will walk me down the aisle ( my father isnt in my life. I was planning on walking myself). I do not feel I have a choice and I do not have the heart to tell her no. So I will move forward with it. For her.
So now she is officially in the wedding party and the next issue is her dress. Its been a huge headache for me. (We are having a very traditional black tie affair w/ 200 guests and it is important that she dresses the part.) The dresses that she's finding are not appropriate. Especially for MOB.
Between the fact that she isn't willing to help in the planning and her dress fiasco, I almost feel like she is purposefully making things difficult for me. I have expressed to her more than once that I would really love for her to be involved but she doesn't give me any type of response and just changes the subject.
Has anyone ever experienced something like this and if so how did you handle it while still keeping the peace?
Backstory - My mother is recently retired so she has time. Also, I am not talking about financial assistance, just literal help with planning and ideas.