Mother of Bride Issues

I would say that the bridzilla would be how you are saying it, both in tone and wording. However, I do not think that is crazy. I would be unhappy if my mom decided she needed a dress to look like me. Though my mother needs to be the center of attention she always manages to do it. Perhaps let her know that you had another vision for her and show her dresses you think would look nice on her. Shows you care and are trying to give her "the mother of the bride moment" for my mother that is what is important. I have to give her those moments or she becomes a Momzilla

You're not a bridezilla for not wanting mom, your MOH and bridesmaids in an off the shoulder and for wanting to stand out.

I won't believe your mom if she says she only likes off the shoulder dresses and never wears other silhouettes at all on a daily basis: when she goes to her office/job, to visit her family and friends, grocery shopping, shops for clothes etc... but Tina made a great point: it depends how you phrase it.

Tell her how you feel when she says she wants an off the shoulder.

Can we see pics of both dresses?

View Quoted Comment Yeah I think you’re right. My mom and I have never had the best relationship and she’s trying to make the day about her. I said it in a nice way up until she literally got snippy with me. At this point she’s picked another dress that isn’t off the shoulder, but i think it’s hideous. However, I’m not complaining because at least it wasn’t off the shoulder lol

View Quoted Comment Yes of course! So the first pic is what she wanted to wear (not in white) and the second is my wedding dress. I know they aren’t super similar but I really just didn’t want off the shoulder

View Quoted Comment I personally think they're so different that no one will notice or care. Hers has a very solid fabric with clean lines, yours is lacy with cleavage. Hopefully you can eventually let this one go.

While you can definitely ask that of her, I wouldn't get too worked up over it. Your dress and hers look completely different other than the fact the sleeves are off of your shoulders. I wouldn't compare the two at all or think she's trying to steal your spotlight.

I wouldn't worry about such a small similarity between your dress and the one your Mom likes, because with one of your previous posts it looks like your off the shoulder straps are detachable, so in the end of it all it won't matter if your Mom has a dress that is barely similar to yours for a very brief amount of time.

You will stand out regardless of what anyone else wears. Plus the dresses are very different. Honestly I don't think anyone will even pay attention to the fact that you both have off the shoulder dresses. With some people you just have to pick and choose your battles. You look great in your dress, by the way!!

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much! I’m excited to wear it in a few weeks!