Mother of bride dress, please help!

I would say absolutely not. It's close to white and looks very bridal with all the beading and sparkle. Is your mom the type to respect your wishes, or is she just going to wear this no matter how you feel?

View Quoted Comment Honestly my mother will do what she wants. Her exact words was, it’s to make ME stand out(the bride)

View Quoted Comment If that's true then you have to consider, is this dress fancier than yours? And does it look more silver in real life? A mom in a metallic gown is fine, in theory, but to me this dress crosses a line.

View Quoted Comment Well that was my first thought honestly! I just wanted make sure it wasn’t just me.
What color should I suggest to her ?

View Quoted Comment Should she be the same color as my bridesmaids? They will be in a gold

View Quoted Comment No, she doesn't have to match them. In some social circles, it's not acceptable to tell the parents what color to wear. In others (including every wedding I've ever been to), the mother of the bride and groom coordinate somewhat. This is especially true if you have siblings in your wedding party, since mom will be in photos with them.


I always recommend this guide that suggests colors. You can show it to her, even if she doesn't get her dress from David's Bridal: https://www.davidsbridal.com/Content_StyleandFashionGuide_styleguidemobcoordinator

You say your dress will be red. Are you from a culture where a bride in red is the norm? I only ask because if I was at a typical western style wedding, my eyes would be drawn to the woman in white because white = bride. But if you're of a culture where the bride is typically in red, and you're in red, it may not be that much of an issue because their eyes will be going towards the woman in red.

View Quoted Comment Nope I just want my dress to be red, this really won’t a traditional wedding when it comes to me being in white

View Quoted Comment Awesome thank you so much for this!

Can you use the excuse of you don't want to mix metallics? If you could choose what colors would you be comfortable with her, from the colors you mentioned I feel like a nice dusty rose color would complement your dress and the gold bridesmaids dresses well.

View Quoted Comment In that case, yeah, I wouldn't want her in that dress. It's just natural for your guests to gravitate towards the white dress. Of course they'll know you're the bride, but it can be hard to shake the subconscious white=bride mentality. A cream, or maybe a navy or even a maroon/burgundy to match you, but *not* match you

View Quoted Comment I was just thinking of that color actually! I went on the website that was shared here and for my wedding colors they suggested that one!

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I think something like this could look really pretty

or maybe like a dark champagney color

The “no white” rule for guests, including parents, means “does the dress look like it will be mistaken as a wedding dress?”. The dress in the original picture with zero context looks like a wedding dress. Opt for a color that doesn’t photograph white so stay away from all pastels.

My mom’s dress is pretty much the same color as that… I’m not thrilled about it but for me, it’s not worth the argument. I know everyone will be looking at me regardless and they may give her weird looks but whatever. Her friend and the saleswoman both thought it was fine for her to wear.
If you’re really uncomfortable with her wearing it, then say something. But you’re the bride so all eyes will be on you. Since you’re wearing red I don’t think guests will expect anything else traditional.

View Quoted Comment Yea that’s what I am trying to decide if it’s worth the argument haha I sent her some screenshot of dresses and couple different colors, all she said was okay so we will see!

View Quoted Comment Yes!!! Where did you find those dresses at ?

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Most of them were from the Nordstrom and Bloomingdales websites 2 were from David's Bridal. Good luck to you!

The silver dress looks fine to me. Silver is a pretty popular color for mothers to wear for weddings. And it's not like you are wearing white or ivory.

Tell Mom your dress is more old hollywood glamour and when standing next to you, the silver dress will look like prom. Maybe not exactly, but that should stop her because it's clearly vintage bridal in style and a bit risque.