Mother not supportive

Why does she not approve?

Honestly, there usually is a reason why parents are unsupportive... I'm sure there's more to this story.

Have you talked to her about this? Maybe telling her how much she is hurting you will help.

Also, does she know your FH well? Maybe you should remind her why you love him and are marrying him.

It sucks that she is acting this way and I hope she is better on your wedding day!

Your wedding is your big day that is entirely about celebrating you and your husband. Your mother is an important figure in your life, but once you are married, that is your life. Whether she is happy or not should not determine your happiness. She is her own person, and she is choosing to miss out on the most important day of her daughter's life because of selfishness. Try not to let her ruin this beautiful time for you. Blessings!

I would sit down with her and just have a heart to heart. Just tell her you love her, but this is what makes you happy, and if she cannot be civil to everyone there, then, as much as you want her there, you don't think it would be a good idea for her to come if she can't abstain from being mean to everyone for one day! Obviously, you don't have to use those exact words, but she needs to know that if she's going to ruin your day, then you'd rather not have that kind of attitude at your wedding!

Definitely more to this...I know I've had an iffy relationship with my mom because she loves to toot her own horn on how she supposedly helped me through struggles with different disabilities growing up...then she will tell me that it's my fault for not following her plan that my life sucks... Then she'll say she loves me and FH...but you need to speak to her and find out why she doesn't approve. eTa: pressed submit instead of enter

As long as your happy and know u are marrying the man of your dreams that is all that matters. Maybe you could try to get her and your FH together and let her see that he is truly the one for you. IF she is not willing to do that then you have to keep going baby girl it's about what you want not anyone else.

We need more info to give you any valuable feedback. It would help to know why she doesn't approve.

Why doesn't she like him?

"I have had to plan our entire wedding by myself." How old are you? You do realize no one--including our mother--is obligated to help you plan YOUR wedding, right?

Yes, I sense more of a backstory here. Is there a specific reason why she doesn't want you to marry him? thats not something people would come up with out of nowhere.

And to echo Sunni... I planned my entire wedding by myself. Sure, I talked about things with parents and friends, but I did all the planning. Its your wedding.. thats what you do.

Following. I know there as to be a back story of some kind, so I'll wait to give any kind advice until after that has been shared.

Aisle not isle.

Now, it is perfectly understandable that if she doesn't approve of the marriage she wouldn't be excited to help with the planning.

Can you elaborate on the specifics as to why she does not like him? Or against the marriage? Most people do not instinctively dislike others for no reason.

Secondly, for the purposes of your wedding she can't put differences aside for one day?