Mother is upset

I don’t think it was disrespectful. It was nice got your mom to text her on Mother’s Day but that doesn’t make them close. You should have the people that are close to in your bridal party and your mom should be mature about it because it’s not her wedding.

It sounds like your parents are divorced? It definitely would make sense to me if she wasn't invited, if so. Your mom definitely needs to get over it! Weddings can be so expensive and cutting guest lists is the quickest and most assured way to cut budgets! It's definitely not from a place of hate, but generally people can't afford to invite everyone we'd like to!

I have an ex husband, and I don’t expect to be invited to his families gatherings even though I’m on good terms with them. It sounds like she’s being a bit unreasonable. I wouldn’t invite an ex-aunt to my wedding either. And by the way she’s acting, I’d be afraid of the drama she’d cause. But just because they are no longer officially family doesn’t mean you and your cousin aren’t. Your mother is in the wrong here, but unfortunately if she doesn’t want to see the light, I don’t know how you can change her mind.

No it sounds like your mother was hurt by not being invited, and trying to get point blame where it doesnt belong, sit down with you mom and have a real heart to heart about it. It might be hard to pull off a perfect wedding if the MOB is at odds with one of the bridesmaids.

No, your mom is being unreasonable. I’m sure your FH was invited because he’s your FH, not because she looked at her potential guest list and decided she liked your FH more than your mom. Is it safe to assume your parents are no longer together? If so, I think it’s very odd that she expects to be invited to his family’s gatherings.

It’s not disrespectful. She technically isn’t your cousins family. I would understand if your parents are married and she invited your dad and not your mom that would be a little rude. What family members fail to understand is that your respective bridal parties are your choice of the people you are closest to and you want by your side on that day. Don’t give into your moms tantrum. I would tell her straight out: stop throwing a fit, you’re an adult. She didn’t disrespect you and she’s going to be a bridesmaid because we are close, end of story. I think your mom will learn to deal!

I think your mom is wrong. She shouldn't expected to be invited to your cousin's wedding as she is no longer a part of that family since your parents are divorced. If you want your cousin to be a bridesmaid that is your decision. Your mom just needs to get over it as it your wedding and she has no right trying to dictate who is in your bridal party. It sounds like your mom is causing unnecessary drama because she is hurt that your cousin didn't invite her to her wedding that your mom really had no business being invited to in the first place. As for your cousin inviting your fiance over your mother that makes sense has your fiance is marrying into the family and your mom is divorced from the family. You and your fiance are a social unit so your cousin did the right thing by inviting him even she had never met him before. I recommend sitting down and talking to your mom. Explain how important it is to you to have your cousin as a bridesmaid and make it clear that you aren't going to change your bridal party just because she wants you to. You really need to stick up for yourself otherwise your mom is going to continue to think she can bully you and that you'll just give in her.

Sounds like your mom is dealing with some hurt and is in her feelings. I think having a respectful, frank discussion with your mom is order when she is ready to actually hear you and what you are trying to say. Good luck.

Your mother's feelings may be hurt but you are making the right decision. Divorcing someone also usually means divorcing their family. She needs to think about your feelings and desires on your day.

Stick to your guns. Sounds like your mom is just hurt, is all