Mother in law/sister in law attire

Oh I feel you! My mother in law bought a dress that was insane with cleavage and a slit and I vetoed it and got her to buy a new one. I told them that I wanted everyone to look great in the photos and convinced her to wear a dress similar to my moms so it would compliment each other. You have to do it very delicately so you don’t hurt any feelings or be to controlling about it. I would just straight up tell them that you don’t think their outfits are appropriate. I would go shopping with them and help them pick something better! Good luck girl I understand your pain!

Oh my. I think I would try to have a conversation with them about the theme/formality of the event. Maybe they’d rather wear that for just the reception/dancing. Idk, I wouldn’t really like that at all but certainly not in my photos. But they may just be thinking party dresses.

Wowzers! That’s a tricky one.... what does your FH think about this?? Do you think maybe he could talk to them n tell them they can’t show up looking like that??

View Quoted Comment When I show him he says “ okay, they’re adults” and I’m just like you shouldn’t want them coming to our wedding like that. He finally admitted I was right so we will be picking out mil dress. Long dress is sil option, short dress was mil option. I’m a plus size woman and I know what works for me and I’m confident with myself but I also know what doesn’t work for my body. They are also plus size women, and all I’m saying is be modest about it. We’re taking photos and they will be saying a speech as well, why do you want these skimpy outfits?!

View Quoted Comment LOL, I totally agree. I don’t think the first one is as bad as the second one to be honest but I know what you mean about maybe it’s a bit risky for a family affair. I’m sure it will all work out LOL good luck

What is your venue? I ask because I’m wondering if you can put it on them, given that a lot of venues do have dress codes. I agree that neither is appropriate but it’s a very tricky one to approach. I think it might be better coming from your FH - maybe he should just tell them straight out that neither is appropriate for a wedding. The long one isn’t so bad (if the slits weren’t there it might juuuuuuust be OK) but that short one is a clubbing dress not an outfit for a wedding.

View Quoted Comment My venue doesn’t have a dress code but it is a elegant venue inside. And yes being that the short one was mil choice, we are now picking out her dress.

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Bummer! Maybe show them photos of the venue and say you don’t want them to feel underdressed or out of place, given that all the other guests will be wearing more elegant outfits (if your mom and other relatives have picked outfits, show them pictures so they have a frame of reference).

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Stoooopppppp!!!! They did not actually want to wear this to your wedding?! I would politely ask them to find something a little more elegant and "wedding appropriate".

The first one isn't AS bad...because unless she is standing there posing like the model in the picture all night the slits won't be as noticeable...but the second one. OMG! That is appropriate for a night at the club...but for a wedding? No. Veto that fast and help her pick something a little more appropriate.

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They both would be an ABSOLUTE NO for me for anyone to wear at my wedding. The day is about you and your fiance. I would tell them I think its inappropriate and choose something else!

View Quoted Comment Mil has her dress, me and FH picked it out. And I sent sil some choices so everything should be ok now. At first I was worried because I couldn’t understand why they would want to wear that.

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Oh great! Yeah I am not sure why, I would never choose those for a wedding!