Mother in law wants to wear same color as me

No you aren't. It's your wedding and she should respect your wishes. If you listen to you, your fiancee needs to step in and handle it.

I don't think you're being a bridezilla at all. I agree with Laura. She should respect your wishes, especially since you specifically asked her not to do it

You are not a bridezilla, she’s is probably having a hard time watching her son move on with his life. If it were me, I’d pick a different color, I know your thing is red and black, but it will really be awkward that she is matching you and that will take away from your day, and no, I don’t think this will be letting her win, because this is not a game, it’s your life and you shouldn’t let her or anyone ruining it. There’s too many other colors... be open and go to the bridal shop and try other options. Good luck! ✨

View Quoted Comment I would pick another color but I already bought the dress I had to special order it and the wedding is in March and since it was special made I can’t return it!

You're definitely not being a bridezilla. Your FH should handle this since it's his mother. We had a similar issue with FMIL and the original dress she chose. She blew up about it and he told her plain and simple "if you wear that to the wedding after I've repeatedly asked you not to, I will personally escort you to your car and you will leave". She sounds like she's purposefully trying to get under your skin.

No you’re not being a bridezilla. Ask your FH to handle this with his mom.

If she didn't know you were going for a non traditional color and showed up in your color scheme, then I wouldn't be mad. But she is trying to do this on purpose and out of spite. It's the same as her trying to wear white. It's extremely rude.

I don't think you are

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry to hear that. I keep thinking you shouldn’t give her the joy of knowing she’s stressing you out, you might still have time to get another dress with money you might get from selling this one? Forgive me, I am not crazy, I am certain that you have already invested time and money on this special dress, but she wearing the same colors you are will be stealing your thunder! And getting your fiancée (her son) involved only stresses your relationship, and she’ll enjoy that... sorry! 😩

You are NOT a bridezilla... she is in the wrong... My grandmother recently told me an old saying when my FMIL was giving issues... she said “Why is she even talking... mother in laws wear beige and keep their mouth shut” this came from a very sweet, very country, god fearing woman. She normally doesn’t say stuff like that so it was a shock lol. My FH got so fed up he bought his mom dresses and said pick from these or you won’t be in any professional wedding photos and if she causes problems she just won’t be going anymore (it got bad in our situation). So now it’s time for FH to get involved, he needs to tell her no and then give her options. This isn’t her day. I understand it’s her son but he’s also a grown man, time to let him live and enjoy his day with his new wife. She shouldn’t even be arguing.
Hope this helps a little 😊

Ugh. It’s fine for you to not want anyone to wear your wedding dress color! Tell FH to deal with her.