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Savvy September 2019

Mother in law problems.

Soon, on June 23, 2019 at 7:20 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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So my FH and I have been together for 8 years and engaged for 2 months getting married next month. I have been trying to set up times where my mom and mother in law talk and come together since they only see eachother on occasions makes sense right we're getting married. Everytime I set up a day and time my mother in law cancels last minute for stupid reasons like she had a concert to go to. She cancelled 4 times in these 2 months. This has made both myself my mom and FH upset and uncomfortable. We get married July 2nd. And now my mother in law is saying she is free 3 days before the wedding to meet my mom. But my mom doesn't want to meet her because she cancelled 4 times last minute and we've been engaged for 2 months already. What should I do?

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Latest activity by Cheryl, on June 24, 2019 at 4:11 AM

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Kelly · on June 23, 2019 at 7:30 PM
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I would let it go. I don’t think it’s something you need to coordinate and I also don’t think it’s necessary for your moms to get together before the wedding.
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VIP November 2019
Laura · on June 23, 2019 at 7:37 PM
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Why is it necessary for them to meet? I’d say it isn’t worth the hassle and just let it go.
FTR, my parents won’t meet his parents until the wedding, maybe the rehearsal dinner. I’m not stressing it.
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Anna · on June 23, 2019 at 7:39 PM
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I agree with Kelly. You can't force them to have a relationship.
They can meet at the rehearsal dinner.
If you force it, it will be awkward.
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Savvy September 2019
Soon · on June 23, 2019 at 7:57 PM
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I wasn't sure if it was necessary for them to meet or not. But that eases my mind a lot. Thank you ladies!
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VIP October 2020
Kelly · on June 23, 2019 at 7:58 PM
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Let it go. She's been avoiding the situation so don't bother investing anymore effort into it.
My fiance and I have been together three years and our moms have seen each other maybe four times. I don't think the mum's need to do much together anyway.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on June 23, 2019 at 8:47 PM
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Nothing? Why do they need to meet? They’re not the ones getting married.
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Legend March 2017
Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 23, 2019 at 9:12 PM
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It would have been nice but too bad your MIL was being poopy. At this point they can meet at the rehearsal dinner.
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Expert November 2020
Cheryl · on June 24, 2019 at 4:11 AM
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I think it was a really nice thought. If you're planning on having kids or hosting holidays it's nice when everyone knows each other and gets along. For this event, though, I think you need to let it go. There will be so much going on that it won't be awkward because there will be plenty of people there to act as a buffer. Try to stay positive and enjoy these next few weeks as much as you can.
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