Mother-in-law or Monster-in-law

FMIL and I had a great relationship before the engagement, we spent lots of time together just the two of us, she probably saw me more than her son lol. But since we got engaged she's just had all of this drama. She wanted to wear a dress to our wedding that was basically a wedding dress. FH confronted her and told her she either finds another dress or doesn't come to the wedding. That whole thing has blown over, but now she just acts like she doesn't care about this wedding at all. I wanted her to come dress shopping with my bridal party (my sisters and her daughter) and my mom last weekend and she said she would, then bailed last minute to go to the lake with friends. FH's dad and stepmom are great, asked how they could help contribute to the wedding. Both my parents like my FH and he likes them also.

Eh. My FMIL will never really accept that my FW is gay, so she will never really be happy about us. She doesn’t really give us much trouble, just isn’t nterested in the wedding or our lives. I know it sounds petty, but she will like or comment on every single thing my FW posts of Facebook unless it has to do with me. Petty, but it drives me nuts lol.

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Interesting Amber. Thank you for sharing. Ill message you my further comments. Our situation sounds similar congrats!

My mil I always thought didn't really like me but it was also because we didn't know each other's after we got married and we started spending loads of time together I feel very loved now. Sometimes I think things just take time.

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Jeez, I'm sorry Caytlyn. A friend of mine and her FW are getting married soon and her parents are barely coming around to the idea of her marrying another woman. Her dad isn't even sure if he'll walk her down the aisle yet, it's been hard on her. I hope you and your FW have an awesome life together regardless of the pettiness!

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Take the high road girl! Congrats. I hope the pettiness becomes resolved.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Your friend’s story is one that I hear all too often. The relationship that I have with my FMIL is difficult, but I always keep in mind that we have a ton of other people that love and support us.

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I agree it does take time and communication!

My FMIL & I have a great relationship have from the start. I probably spend more time with her than with my FH. Sorry about your relationship, I hope it gets better.

View Quoted Comment Good for you! Hoping to get to that point eventually.

I don’t have a relationship with my future in-laws. FH’s dad is an unemployed alcoholic and no one talks to him or respects him in that family. FH’s mom is a witch, imo. The way she speaks to people is like she’s lecturing them at all times. She’s a preschool teacher. I would hate to have her teach my kids

Her mom passed away before we met but her dad seems to like me, even if he forgets that we're getting married and why. (Because we love each other) I do get along with her sisters and becoming close with one of them. She has only met my parents once and seemed to get along with my step-mom. She'll be meeting my brothers for the first time at the wedding.

As for 2 MILs, our future daughter-in-law will have 3. Us and his dad's wife. LOL

I have a fantastic relationship with my FILs. I honestly talk to my FMIL more than my own mom most days. And I always get excited to go to their house or when they come up to see us.

View Quoted Comment That’s awesome keep it up! Family is important.

View Quoted Comment Oh gosh sounds like a nightmare !!! Congrats anyhow!

View Quoted Comment What a lucky daughter in law !!!! 😊 congrats!

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That is so tough. I love that neither my mother or my FMIL use social media for this exact reason. It is hurtful. You have an amazing attitude and good things will come to you because of it!!

I am the luckiest gal in the world and my FMIL is beyond amazing. My entire new family has taken the time to make sure I'm included in things and always make me feel loved. That would be my best advice to you. Just keep making her feel included as much as you can. Even if she keeps turning you down, just keep trying your best. Simple examples are asking her to cook a side or help with a meal at a family gathering you are hosting. If she is a traditional housewife, maybe asking her for advice on how to clean/cook/handle housewife duties. A women always wants to hear how amazing her son is, so you can always lather that onto any conversations you have! haha. Good luck to you!

Thanks for the advice. I pray things get better!