Mother-in-law gets same engagement ring

Super weird and not ok at all!!! She probably can't bring it back though. So it just depends on how much drama you want to embroil your spouse in if you ask him to ask her not to where it. Talk to your sppuse first and go from there. Either way she looks like a jealous fool that can't act her age.

I think it’s weird, but I’d let it go. She can wear whatever jewelry she wants, so saying anything to her or having your husband do so is only going to cause unnecessary drama.

View Quoted Comment Yup all of this! Be flattered and annoyed and move on. I got engaged around my parents 30th anniversary. For 31years my mom popped up with a new engagement ring, LOL! And she couldn’t wait to show me. It is similar to mine and not at all close to her old one. Whatever.

I think it's a little weird but flattering at the same time. There's not much you can do about it and honestly I'm sure no one else notices that it's the same ring.

It is sort of weird but as they say, imitation is the best form of flattery. I’d let it go.

It's an odd choice but not a wrong one. Let it go.

SUPER weird but what can you do.. Sorry that happened

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Yes that is SUPER WEIRD - and I am all about weird things but man.....out of the thousands of designs she picks that ring?

Let it go......I know it is hard but you gotta do it!

Yikes! I would hate that too! My FH did mine fully custom so that this wouldn’t ever happen. He came to that conclusion when I was trying on rings for fun at a store one day and I found three rings identical to people in our friend group. From there he was able to see how much they paid and what not and he hated the idea that someone could do that. So from then on, i wasn’t allowed to pick something from the glass box, I had to pick pieces or things I liked about rings and then he put it all together.

I ’m so sorry your MIL did that! How inconsiderate of her. On the bright side, at least you do know for sure she loved your ring lol

Kind of weird, but I'd be flattered she loved it enough to get one as well. I'd try not to let it bother me.

Thanks ladies! It's so nice to have unbias advice, so thank you! Unfortunately this isn't the first time my MIL has done some "weird" things to me. After we had our pre-marriage counseling session with the priest who was going to marry us, she showed up at his office to talk about our wedding ceremony and give ideas about how the ceremony should go. The priest mentioned this to me at my rehearsal dinner, I had NO idea that she had done that. I felt a bit blind-sided. The list of things she's done over the years is quite long and I've been pretty good about shaking off stuff she's done but this felt personal because it was my engagement ring. I don't begrudge her getting a new ring for her 40th, that's amazing to be celebrating that milestone and lord knows marriage is hard, so it's a beautiful thing to celebrate and she deserved to get something new that she loves. I just wish it wasn't the exact same ring as me. I'm not going to make a big thing or have my husband talk to her or anything as all it will do is cause drama and I try to avoid that at all costs. I'm just upset about it for now and know that I'll get over it soon. Thanks for all writing in

Super weird. Have you talked to your husband about it? Very creepy to me.

Super weird, but as PP say, not much you can do. Laugh with your girlfriends about it and swap creepy MIL stories to vent it out.

So what? Would you be weirded out if she bought the same car? Dress? Got the same haircut? I promise you no one will ever know unless you or she tells.

So what? Like it’s not a big deal. She likes the ring. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. She can do what she wants. Now I want to see this ring!

She found out thats around 26k both ring engage and wedding ring she was so mad , i’m trying ti tell my husband dont choose the 26k or else we are in trouble or else she will think im gold digger i didnt request that or choose the ring hes the one choose it and he forced me to choose the ring he saw which is 26k i dont want to be look stupid now i need ti have two jobs to help him out or cover him up to pay the ring which is i will the one will pay so that no problem at all. i know my MIL she really thinks i’m gold digger perhaps i’m not even asking money to my hsuband i’m the one giving him money everytime i look his account i gave him money even tho he dont like it but i have to do it. coz i love him i do everything my power. you think 26k its my fault to choose it even its not she think i’m liar coz i didnt tell her perhaps my husband told me not to tell anything i feel bad person

Totally weird and creepy but nothing to do about it

As weird as purple socks. That is, I wouldn't, but nothing wrong with doing it, or with a person who does it. ... Ignore her ring. If she asks, say, I wish you had chosen a different one. But if not, say nothing. No big attention getter. I could shake the hand of 45 people and not not notice that at least 30 are one of the same 2 rings. Unless you call attention to it, most people won't notice. If they do, let her explain. If not, most people do not wonder, and more won't care if they do unless you are the one pushing it.

It’s a bit off, but I’d probably ignore it so hubby isn’t put in an awkward spot. There are plenty of other things that will be more important and unless your hands are right next to each other no one will notice. Not worth the drama from her.

Your mother in law seems to have some Narcissistic tendencies