Mother-in-law causing problems 12 days before wedding!!

Unfortunately, I do not know the full entire backstory. But, what I can assume and empathize with is the possible feeling of hurt and betrayal that your FMIL feels. A divorce is a lot AND to have people choose sides AND have a child without her knowledge… well, I’d probably rant too to be honest. So, just spare her a little. Again (that’s without me knowing any other additional details).

With that being said, if your FMIL hasn’t given you ANY other reasons to believe that she’d cause a scene at your wedding. It’s okay. Unless your FH wants to disinvite her, I think it’s truthfully find for her to be there. You have a great system in place with your bridesmaids to nip things in the bud should something arise.

I hope it all works out and you guys enjoy!

I'm not sure disinviting her is wise! what I will say is that she might be on her best behavior and if she isn't then it will be dealt with that day and you continue to enjoy your day!

Hi Megan! I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this so close to your wedding.

The best thing that you can do now is to put this out of your head. Obviously, feelings have been hurt and divorce within a family is not easy for anyone involved. That being said, you can ask that those involved remain civil and respectful for the day of your wedding.

Your FMIL is absolutely entitled to her feelings but if you are worried about her behavior, you can remind her that she is there to celebrate your and your FHs relationship.

I wouldn’t go as far as uninviting her as this may cause even more hurt feelings.

It’s a great idea to ask your MOHs to nip anything in the bud that might arise and hopefully, that will give you some peace of mind on your wedding day.

The most important thing to remember is that everyone is at your wedding to celebrate your love for each other and you should enjoy it!

Okay, so no advice but I need to adopt the way you swear on here. expertly done

really though, I wish you the best! that sounds awful. I wish I had some advice for you, other than what others have said about you and your FH having a sit down heart to heart with her.

My ex MIL was insane. She started causing trouble early on and hated me because I wasn't having it. I refused to allow her to take over, and I refused to allow her to continue to run her son's, my exes, life. She had threatened to cause a scene with the "can anyone show just cause" part, so I had the pastor remove it from the ceremony. Broke my heart when my ex cheated, didn't break my heart to never have to see that lunatic again. I hope she behaves at your wedding, but you should remove her if not

Man this is a super tough situation. As a mom of older kids I would be crushed if they had a child and didn't tell me. However, I can say that when it comes to a fresh divorce the best thing you can do is stay neutral. I know it's hard because FMIL is seemingly losing her mind and a little on the wacky side right now.

But, what if you extended an olive branch to her? You know let her know you are here for her and the rest of the family to talk to without bias. What if you allowed her to just unleash all her pent up feelings and pain she is trying to deal with. Maybe she just needs to have a source that will just let her unleash and not judge or hold it against her. If you and her could maybe take a FMIL and FDIL day before the wedding you both might be able to find a happy medium and you can find a way to approach the wedding day fears without seeming like you're attacking her or taking sides.