Hello,
So my wedding isn't until end of October 2022 but when trying to include my mom in wedding planning (mostly just tossing around ideas) she is just so negative.
Examples:
When talking about my venue: "Its so far, nobody is going to come" Its 45 minutes from me, about an hour from my mom. We are in Illinois, our MOH and BM are flying in from different states. My response to her is whoever wants to be there, the distance won't matter. "I'm not dressing super fancy because its in a barn" OK its not like a horse barn, this is the inside.
Showing her wedding dress ideas (I don't know what I want style wise - leaning towards sheath or a-line but I know I want floral aspects or lace): Everything I picked out was trashy, she kept bringing up long sleeve ballgowns which is not my style at all.
When talking about decor: "You said the venue has centerpieces you can use, why don't you just use those?" I get its a legitimate question but they aren't my style at all. I was talking about not having real flowers for my bouquet as a way to save money: "you HAVE to have real flowers" Mind you my mom made it VERY clear that her and my father will not be contributing anything to this wedding.
I'm just at a loss of what to do, I don't get why she's being the way she is. She wants to throw me a bridal shower but doesn't want to include my FH's family so whats the point? When the time comes for dress shopping do I take her with, or do I just go alone? I know my FMIL and FSIL would love to go but it just wouldn't feel right... she's my mom and I love her I just don't know how to handle all the negativity.