Mother drama w having no attendants

We selected not to have a bridal party. I’m also walking down the aisle unaccompanied. Bridal parties aren’t really needed.

View Quoted Comment Well I was planning to have my parents walk me down the isle but now I am so frustrated I don’t want that either. Ugh

Many people opt for a more simple wedding without a bridal party. Do what makes you happy and don’t let other people pressure you.

I will be mid thirties by the time we marry (my first time, his second), and I don't intend on having a bridal party nor are we having a big wedding.

I may invite a good supportive friend, but I don't know if I will ask her to be anything or do anything for me.

I quite like the idea of me and FH being there for each other, just us two.

We talked recently about him having a best man, and I said I would do it, but I'd be engaged elsewhere.

View Quoted Comment Agree but how do u put up w the mamma drama?

View Quoted Comment 😂 thank you

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I will admit that I did then start thinking about whether I should have a bag or pockets to hold the rings...until I realised he would be better suited to that than I would anyway.

My mum isn't very involved in my life overall, so I can't see my wedding bringing that about. She wasn't for my sister's wedding, but then my sister is a very bossy and critical person herself anyway.

In my case though, I would like my mum's involvement to a point as she is very creative, resourceful, practical and enjoys crafting. She actually has a lot of skills that would be useful for wedding planning, come to think of it. I might have to make a call sometime.

View Quoted Comment I just wouldn’t tell her anything. And if she asks why you aren’t telling her things explain that you aren’t dealing with drama. It’s your day!

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Tell her as little as possible. The more you tell her, the more things she has to complain about, or start drama about.

If she questions you or presses for details, say something like, "we're still thinking about that, haven't made a decision" OR "thanks for your input, I'll keep that in mind and let you know"

These are phrases that can stop the drama before it gets started. But seriously, stop telling her things. Couples have even told pushy parents, "it will be a surprise for you!" Good luck.

I am with ya! I am 40 and my husband is 52, we got married in September and it was both our 2nd marriages. Having a bridal party was not a want for us and I also had no one walk me down. We didn't care about a lot of the typical or traditional wedding things that certain people (parents, grandparents) think all weddings should have. Since we were paying for everything ourselves, we kept all the wedding details to our self which was a huge help. People will always have their opinions but just remember it is your wedding and your memories. Not theirs.

View Quoted Comment Thank you couldn’t agree more

It’s whatever you prefer! I am not having a wedding party for my wedding. I feel a lot of people were upset with this choice but it isn’t their decision. It’s a lot of money being a bridesmaid and I want to make it easier on then financially. Wedding party or not, your close friends are going to be there anyway. I feel wedding parties are good for the photos really and to throw you a bachelorette party.

View Quoted Comment Exactly!! I have been in many weddings in the past and don’t even talk to those ppl anymore. What’s the point? Unless they are family chances are friends change. Everyone that wants to be there will be and then others that don’t come, oh well. Plus the pics all I care about are the ones of us and some randoms and I don’t need a Bach party.

View Quoted Comment Ya thanks!! I will keep trying but when u don’t tell her she gets mad or she makes and buys her own ideas and tells everyone I’m keeping her out of it. My sister is not getting married bc of this exact situation, the drama. Parents are most likely paying for some or most of the day so that will be her excuse. Or if I ask others for help then we play the pitty card

View Quoted Comment Thanks 😊 just don’t know how that will go over

Concerned that your main reason to skip the bridal party is "to save everyone money". Do you mean to save the money of the women you'd select to be bridesmaids? I'm in my thirties and my friends and I now have more disposable income than we did when, say, the first in our group got married the weekend after college graduation. You shouldn't forgo bridesmaids if you think the cost is an imposition - they can make that decision for themselves right?