Mother-daughter dress disagreement

While I agree the bride should make the final decision, as a mom I also understand the delicate fine line of being supportive of the bride's choice and trying to give honest feedback. Maybe she just wants to try and ensure you don't make a choice you'll later regret. When we started shopping, daughter said she didn't want to make a decision the first time she tried a dress on. At the second store, she tried on a dress that was very pretty, but it was strapless (something she'd said she didn't want) and it had a very distinctive pink undertone. The saleswoman was very "encouraging" (it was David's...) and nearly had daughter convinced to say yes. I had two concerns, first, that daughter had said she did NOT want to make a decision immediately, and honestly, that she might come to regret choosing a "pink" dress (as a kid, she was obsessed with Barbie, and nearly everything she owned was pink so I was a little concerned she was reacting to that, but would later think, "what the heck was I thinking?!?!?). As MOB, we've done virtually all of the planning together, but I have always tried to defer to her decisions. I'll mention something if I think there are ramifications she might not have considered, but then it's her decision. When she asked if she should "say 'YES' to the dress?", I went with, "it's beautiful, but you said you didn't want to choose immediately." She decided to wait. We continued shopping, and two stores later, she found the PERFECT dress for her (and it has a soft gold undertone, which makes her absolutely radiant). After she made the decision, we were talking and I told her I had been concerned she'd regret the pink color, and she agreed she probably would have. She asked why I didn't just say "no," and I told her, ultimately, I wanted it to be HER decision. My suggestion is perhaps talk with your mom about why she's tending to favor the second dress. If it's cost, then maybe you can offer to pay the difference? Maybe it's that she thinks the "shimmery" tulle is a little "extra"? Or perhaps there are minor differences in the fit/cut of the second dress that she thinks are more flattering? Or, maybe she really means, "pick whichever one you want," and you're just mis-reading each other. Good luck!

It's your dress, not your mother's. You absolutely shouldn't feel like you're settling, I mean this is your one and only wedding dress. If it's the fact that she's paying that makes you so uncomfortable, pay for your dress yourself and go with the one you love.

Okay...I'm a mom....I have been in your moms shoes...It's your wedding. Get the dress you want! We as moms have a certain picture in our minds as to what our "little" girls should look like on their wedding day, but we "really" want you to be happy more than anything! Take your mom "if" you can back to the salon that the dress you want is at and try it on again. Let her see you in the dress again and show her just how much you love this dress and how beautiful you feel in it!

I have to remind my mother of my vision for my wedding several times. She wants me to wear a beaded crown that my great grandmother, grandmother and she wore but I told her that I didnt want to wear a crown or tiara or anything. When it came down to the dress she wanted something more ball gowny. But at the end the dress that I choice was the one that made me the happiest and when I said yes to the dress she cried like a baby. In the end its up to us.

She may be paying for the dress, but it's a gift from her to you right? So why is her gift coming with conditions? When we give gifts, we should not expect anything in return. She should not guilt you into choosing what SHE likes (she's older, from a different generation, and has different tastes than you), when it's YOUR wedding.

It's your wedding, your body, your big day, and you should pick the dress you felt GIDDY in. That's how a bride should feel when she chooses her wedding dress. Explain to your mom that you appreciate her giving you this as unconditional gift, and you will choose the dress you feel your best in.

I don't know your budget, but we found the Rebecca Ingram line from Maggie Sottero to include gorgeous dresses in a bit more affordable price range (I think they are in the $800-1200 range) than some of the higher-end designers.

You should go with the dress you love or you'll end up with dress regret. I would try and gently tell your mom that you appreciate her opinion, but that you feel more bridal in the first dress. If she gets upset you can suggest you'll pay for the dress yourself, she probably won't let you but she'll know you're serious. You need to go with what makes you happy