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Mother and Aunt

Future Mrs. Anderson, on June 18, 2019 at 10:18 AM Posted in Planning 0 7

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So my FH was not raised by his mom. When his Grandma passed away when he was 5 he went and lived with his other Aunt up until he was 11 then from the age of 11-18 years old he lived with his other aunt. Once he turned 18 he started growing a bond with his biological mother and they’ve been close ever since. I’m honestly not a fan of the aunt that raised him until he was 18 because she’s rude and bitter but I love his mother so much! So my question is should it just be his mom sitting in the front row and getting the mother/son dance or should we include her? In all honesty I don’t want to include his aunt in the dance or sitting in the from row and he’s very understanding of that just because of how she acts

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Latest activity by MOB So Cal, on June 18, 2019 at 11:44 AM

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Jazmin · on June 18, 2019 at 10:43 AM
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If you don't feel comfortable with the aunt, only have his mom in the first row.
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MOB So Cal · on June 18, 2019 at 11:05 AM
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Personally, I think this is a decision he should make.
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Future Mrs. Anderson · on June 18, 2019 at 11:09 AM
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Yes but it is also my wedding too and I would not want anyone even attending our special day when they have been rude or disrespected me or my FH.
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Caytlyn · on June 18, 2019 at 11:16 AM
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Agreed. His family, his call.
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Future Mrs. Anderson · on June 18, 2019 at 11:30 AM
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True but I will not allow someone that has been disrespectful or rude to me to be able to sit in those seats. And that would go for my family too!
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Kinley · on June 18, 2019 at 11:38 AM
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Definitely agree it's his call.
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January 2019
MOB So Cal · on June 18, 2019 at 11:44 AM
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And, I totally get that, but even in that case, I think HE should be the one, first, dealing with the rudeness/disrespect, and second, based on how that goes, making the call about who he wants to honor/seat where on his side.
This issue comes up so often on these forums, and I'm a firm believer in the idea that each spouse is the primary contact/deals with the issues for their own family. That doesn't mean I don't talk with my husband about concerns I have about things that have happened with his family members (we've been together 33+ years and married 32, so we've had lots of examples), but I leave it to him to make the decisions about how to deal with them. None of us know the details beyond what you've shared, but if this woman raised him for 7 years -- during his teen years (which were, honestly, the worse part of my otherwise perfect parenting experience) -- and he thinks she should be honored for that, for me, that would be his call.
Good luck!
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