Morning-After Brunch

I included my info in the invites and have way too many coming. :-/

If the bar will need a headcount, I'm unsure how you will get that without RSVPs. @Megan What do you mean you have too many coming?

It's possible all 200+ of your guests may want to attend so either decide to host a brunch for everyone or not at all.

You will find it's hard enough getting a lot of guests to RSVP for your wedding, let alone another event. I would suggest calling people (don't rely on them finding in the information in their OOT bag). Just be prepared for local people to come too once word spreads.

As for having the brunch for at all, hosting a brunch for 100 is pretty big undertaking the day after your wedding. It's a lovely idea but are you sure you want to do that the day after a late night wedding? As for wanting to attend, you'll find that people will be split on the idea, depending on how much they like brunch or how much they drank the night before. It also depends on when your OOT guests are leaving. Personally, I would not want to take that on.

You can provide a paid for breakfast at your OOT guests' hotels or provide bagels/spreads etc. in their gift bags. You are in NY after all!

Most people will likely want to come. I think you can either limit brunch to immediate family and WP, and not tell anyone else, or be prepared for a lot to come.

I should edit my previous comment to add that if you include it in the invitation insert, that you should anticipate the possibility of everyone (200+) coming. I mean who wouldn't want a free brunch the next day? Just invite immediate family and wedding party.

You could have a separate insert that you only include in the invites for those you want to invite to the brunch. I'm traveling for a wedding at the end of this month and that's what they did for the rehearsal dinner and day-after brunch. They asked that we RSVP to the additional events by adding a note on the wedding RSVP card.

Weddings I have attended included a separate insert in the invitation or sent a completely separate invite to the brunch. They asked to RSVP the way you would for a shower or birthday party. I feel like at some point you have to let people be adults and most will have the common courtesy to RSVP in time. Not perfect, of course, but not sure how else to go about it.

Also, on some wedding websites you can have additional events and assign only a certain group of guests to see and RSVP to that event. So they would RSVP at the same time they are doing so for the wedding itself.

UO alert. I'd skip it.

Every 'after event brunch" we ever catered (weddings, bar and bat mitzvahs) had less people than RSVP's and those people spent less time than the guests expected. Many of your guests will want to get on the road to get home, and others have had enough party.

YOU may not even want to be a host for another day. By the day after the wedding, you'll be shot. If people meet up at their hotel restaurant, great, but don't make it your responsibility to host yet another big party.

We have a lot of people staying at the hotel and I just included it on the website and if people wanna come, have at it

My mom wanted a headcount for brunch at my parents' house, so she sent separate simple invites with the request that people rsvp by email. She's gotten a lot of responses back and they're actually coming in a lot sooner than our wedding rsvps haha

I agree with Celia. This sounds like way too big of an ordeal after you're exhausted from your wedding.

We had a DW and wanted a farewell brunch to say goodbye before people headed home. We advertised it on our wedding website. Everyone attended and it was the perfect way to wrap up the weekend. We included grab and go options for those guests who needed to leave earlier than others.

You could create an insert and send it in the invitations to JUST your OOT guests. Or even an evite, since it is a less formal event.

I don't see any problems with hosting a brunch for just OOT guests and not inviting local ones

Trust me, no one (including yourselves) will want to brunch the morning after. Everyone is dealing with hangovers and packing up to go home. If I would have planned one, I'd have probably had about 5 people show up, and my DH wouldn't have been there!

I put it on our RSVP's. That being said, our entire wedding weekend is on one property where everyone will be sleeping as well. I felt it was only appropriate to do brunch for everyone before they start traveling home on Sunday. Also, we will only have 60-70 people.

Date twin! We will have a lot OOT guest as well, we are going to have brunch at the hotel cafe the next day. The majority of our guests will be staying at the hotel, we aren't hosting anything specific but suspect we will see a lot of people the next morning.

I wanted to host a brunch but then thought the same people would feel pressured, and even if they did RSVP depending on how well the enjoyed themselves at the reception may not come.