More Stress Than Fun...

I was super relaxed about a few weeks before my wedding or so because I started reading BAM posts and it made me feel less stressed knowing that even if things don’t go your way, it doesn’t ruin your overall happiness. All the BAM posts will say something about how something went wrong or unexpected but they still enjoyed the whole day cause at the end of the day those little details didn’t matter much

I think it’s normal to feel stressed out and overwhelmed, however I know your wedding is like a month away, but have you thought about hiring any sort of assistant if it’s in your budget? Maybe it might relieve some stress off of you if you got in contact with the wedding planner. I’m sure they won’t charge you nearly as much as they would if they were helping you plan from scratch, and you’d be able to simply just have them take over.Also I’d highly recommend a day of coordinator to if you don’t have one.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I should take that advice and start seeking out those posts. I know every wedding has imperfections, and I hope by that day I can let it all go and soak in the moments.

I can't offer much help because you and I share the same wedding date and attitude. I keep saying it's going to be okay and everything will work out, but my anxiety is through the roof. I'm going to try a day of relaxation (massage, manicure, pedi) to see if it helps any. Good luck to you and congratulations!

View Quoted Comment I do have a planner/coordinator that I just started working with about two weeks ago. It certainly helped with the communication piece. She has taken over the vendor updates and reaching out to them, etc, but I still feel incredibly overwhelmed and anxious. I am detail oriented and always have been, I just never thought it would feel like this.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I’m sorry you are feeling this way too, but it is comforting to know I’m not alone. That is a great idea. I hope that it helps you to relax and brings you some peace. Good luck and congrats to you too! 💕

I was stressed until we started our rehearsal. I was fine there after and didn’t stress about anything! I enjoyed my day even with all the things that went wrong, like leaving theme marriage license in my car when we took my bridesmaids car to the ceremony. (Ok maybe I stressed about that, lol)
Your day will be perfectly imperfect. Don’t stress the small stuff. Make a decision and then forget about it. Also realize many of the small details are unimportant anyway. If you dont get to them you don’t get to them. You won’t miss and your guests won’t know the difference.
I told my friend yesterday how mad I was the bartender used the wrong napkins. I bought blue napkins, lot is blue napkins, because that was my wedding color. And the bartender was using *gasp* white napkins from the caterer. I was really really mad. My friends response? “I didn’t mind the white napkins. I didn’t know any different” mind you my wedding was a year and a half ago and I’m still getting worked up over napkins, lol. This story to help you remember littler details are fine to skip over. Breathe and enjoy this time.

Oh yeah and I had a blast on my wedding day. Even with all the stress I felt leading up to it. You’ll have fun, promise

I feel the exact same way. My wedding is on August 22nd and bachelorette party is this Saturday at a close friends house. I just can’t get excited anymore, Covid has really stressed me out and I’m at the point as well where I’m like I can’t wait to get this over with. I spoke to my mom earlier and she goes, well can’t you even try to sound a little happy? And no the answer is no. If I hadn’t already spent all this money and invested all this time; I wouldn’t even have a wedding at this point. I too am lucky that I live somewhere that this is possible and that my venue is entirely outside. However it’s all just become too much and I like you cannot sweat the small stuff anymore, because honestly it’s starting not to feel so small.

YouTube has helped me a ton! I’ve watched a lot of wedding videos where brides talk about their biggest regrets, or how their day went. Watching the brides reflect the details that didn’t get executed perfectly really help. Because they will tell you no one noticed, and most of the time the brides don’t notice unless someone tells them. Take a breath and try to designate times of the day or the week to plan or work on last-minute details. Maybe a little structure would help.

We all feel added stress before BIG events. I plan corporate events all the time and can tell you there isn't an event I've planned that I've felt 100% confident of even though I did EVERYTHING.

Now on that same note - I don't think there is a single bride out there that can say EVERYTHING WENT TO PLAN AND PERFECTLY. What I do think most brides can say is, it was the perfect day - I married the love of my life, best friend and lover. You won't remember the imperfections, you'll remember the way your spouse looked at you as you were walking toward them. You'll remember the butterflies in your stomach as you watch them and they you walking up the aisle. And that's all that matters.

Don't stress about the small stuff, stop, relax and enjoy it these last couple of weeks before your big day, it will be here before you know it and I promise you, it will be all that you want it to be.

Honestly, I have had several friends who felt that way and after their wedding day told me that they wished they would have saved the money and just eloped.
For me, I’m just in a really funky head space over all of this. I feel like if we weren’t dealing with the pandemic, then we would probably be a little less stressed out.
Some days I’m good and others I feel like I’m going to fall apart. So I feel you on the stress front girl. My MOH has said since travel has become so expensive (she has to fly from Colorado) that she’s probably going to plan my bridal shower but not be there...help plan my bachelorette party but not be there...and if the cases don’t improve, she’s not so subtly hinted that she might not even be at the wedding in November.