More future grandma in law trouble...

Girl please! You keep your dreams and tell grandma it ain’t happening! This is NOT her wedding! It’s yours! I totally understand your situation bc I’m in something similar. Hear me when I say YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH! Stand up for yourself and let her know your plans. She ain’t payin for anything therefore she doesn’t get a say! I stand behind you and support you! I wish you all the best!!

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Thank you so much. It just gets so hard listening to that everyday. When I've been planning this for so long and dreaming of it since I was a kid.

You deserve the day you and your fiance want!! What you're describing doesn't sound "stressful" at all...she needs to remember that this is YOUR day to unite with your spouse and you should do it how you want to!

It’s your wedding and especially since you are paying for it yourself she really has no say in it. I would stand your ground for sure, and talk to your fiancé. Since it’s his family I would try to see if maybe he can handle talking to her and explaining that this is what you both want.

I have a sister who keeps telling me I told you to elope. Well Karen, we have a things called contracts. You have plans and it’s not unreasonable to postpone it 3 months. Don’t let her take your sparkle away. Just tell her, this is what we’re planning on and we think 3 months it will be safe for all.

Have the wedding and honeymoon you want! She's being the selfish one for trying to guilt you by saying its stressful. Also since you are paying for it nobody else should have an opinion on how your wedding should go, except for your FH.

Future in-laws can be the worst. Please remember this is your day, you're not being selfish and even if you are - you're allowed to be. This is the day you've dreamed about, wanted and you have every right to have it the way you want.

Just curious, why is FGIL wanting you to keep your original date (other than her words, your selfishness). Is she sick, dying? Is she not telling you or your FH something? (if it were me), I'd be curious to know why she's so bent on keeping your original date.

To each their own, we’re doing an intimate wedding this year and a vow renewal next year. I didn’t want to be engaged for 5 years lol.

I don't think you're being selfish for still wanting the wedding of your dreams.

Major props for being polite through all of it, but that's ridiculous. You do what you want - have your wedding and your week honeymoon and ignore everyone else. This isn't something you need to give in on. Good luck with her!

I don't think you're being selfish at all. She can feel free to stay home if she's so stressed about it.

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I was wondering the same thing. Would she be at the court house ceremony, in her version of the day? If not I am extra confused. I would ask why she is so set on the original date? Also what stress is being caused by postponing? If anything it should be relieving stress for the guests, and putting more stress on you are your FH. She might be phrasing something wrong that once heard her reasons behind will make more sense. My FMIL does it all the time she says something in a mean/insulting way but when asked to clarify, it turns out she didn't mean it to come out how it did.

I think it’s quite selfish of her to say such a thing and impose her opinions of what your wedding should be! Hmmmph lol

View Quoted Comment I can only imagine! Hang in there!